Phoenix2006 Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 My ex had come back to town. Since getting back he has been calling and emailing me quite a bit. I've even seen him a few times while out.... I decided to give us a shot at being friends again. He has been flirting around acting as if he wants more than that. I always declined his invites etc because I have moved on and am seeing someone else now. However, the several times talking to him, he failed to mention that he was seeing someone new. Not one word that another girl even existed in his life.... I told him from day 1 that I was seeing someone...I figured honesty is the way to go...I didn't want him to be hurt if he happened to run into us somewhere... Well the opposite happened. I kinda ran into him and his new gf at a store (and I am pretty sure she was a gf by the way they were acting)....I saw this and I admit it bothered me at first.....like someone had hit me in the stomach and knocked the breath out of me... all kinds of emotions surfaced...hurt and anger basiccally.... Anger not so much because he had moved on...(although yes, part of me did get a little jealous I admit) but because I felt he had been lying to me.... He invited me out to a party with him the night before I saw them...what kind of person pulls that B.S. ? It hurts that he tried to play me like that....I felt like walking up to her and saying "Good luck sister, he's your problem now...you're gonna need it." All I did was walk by and act as if I didnt see them. Just kept my eyes forward and casually walked by like they weren't even there....I wasn't totally 100% sure he saw me, but looking back I am pretty sure he did....and I am even more sure now because he hasn't called or emailed in over a week.... I think he's expecting me to be pissed and yell at him...but I really don't care anymore. Yes, I was hurt at first, but seeing him with her is something I *needed* to see for myself. So in a way I am grateful....I am happy where I am at...and this whole incident helped me see just how lucky I am to have the man that I do. I don't want my ex to feel like he has to avoid me like the plague now since his jig is up. Our families are close too, so when they come up to visit. I'd like to be able to be around him without the extra weirdness factor. So should I email or call and just say that I don't care what he does....but I just didn't apprecaite him trying to play me like that? Still can't believe it...I thought he thought more of me than that.
BUTAFLY Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 He tried to play you, it didn't work, why do you need to call him? if you open up that door he's going to get an ego boost that your of him at all or he'll think your considering something more than friends w/ him. Then he'll just make excuses and say the girl he was with was no one special. JUST STOP NOW. He's a player.
silktricks Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 I agree 100% with Butafly. Don't call him, don't do anything. If/when you run into him again, don't even mention seeing him. If he brings it up you can casually say that you're glad he's happy with someone. (Whether he's happy or not isn't the point, of course.) Just go on with your life being glad that he's not in it.
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