Guest Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 I'm almost 23 years old, very mature, deep, spiritual, and know myself very very well. I have been in a few intense relationship- two of which we said we loved each other. I did love them but I wasn't IN LOVE with them. My first question to you guys.....do you think that there is a difference between LOVING someone and BEING IN LOVE? Next questions....I have just met someone (world traveled, intellegent, spiritual 21 yr. old) who at first SIGHT....(and no I never believed in "love at first sight") I was enamored with....and him with me as well. We work together-and met on my third day of work. The day after he met me he ended a 2 yr. relationship that was "on the outs" and we became closer.....the surge, intensity, just knowing, pure truth, it's pure truth.....or is it me being naive? We have been seeing each other now for over a month and are taking things sexually VERY slow (as HARD AS IT IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) (we are facinatingly attracted to one another, each others brain, eyes,)..... He makes me want to look at every part of my being that can improve and improve it. He inspires me. He told me that he only saw life in 4 colors before he met me- (I'm an artist so this was inspiring to hear.) He's spasmically physically moved by me daily, just by my gaze- yet he is a VERY rational person. What is going on here.....is this my husband? My one? I feel so deeply that he is the one, but I also don't want to be naive....can you guys give me some feedback.... Many many thanks-
Violet87 Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 do you think that there is a difference between LOVING someone and BEING IN LOVE For most people, there is a difference between loving someone and being in love. When most people say "they love you, but are not IN love with you" it usually translates to they care about you very deeply but are not in love with you on that passionate/intimate level that is usually reserved for someone they consider a lover/partner. Is this your future husband...Is he the one? Only time will tell and you will have to answer that one yourself. Try not to think so far in the future and enjoy what you and him have now. You two haven't been seeing each other for very long and are still very much in the "honeymoon phase". You are still learning things about him and vice versa. This guy may or may not be the one. Just enjoy what you two have now and see what time has in store for you.
Sally00 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Oh, that is just so cute. I loved my ex... but I wasn't IN LOVE with him. I mean, I didn't see a real future with him. But we're still great friends. My boyfriend now I'm in love with. He's my first love. We love each other sooooo much. We've been friends for over a year and he's liked me that entire time. I didn't like him like that though. But when he asked me out, we had a nice time. One touch from him and it clicked... there was like a switch that was turned on. I realized that BAM... I loved him back. It was the weirdest thing. We've been together for 6 months now. We know we are each other's one... we have ever since we were together. And we haven't had sex. (I want to wait till marriage). From what I hear, when you have that feeling... you just know. Sometimes you just know he's the one. And there are no explanations. It's incredible. Try not to bring your hopes up too high though. You don't want to end up really hurt. It's only been a month. But I'm happy for you!
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