Meaplus3 Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 Hi, Long story short! E/A and slight P/A with a MM for the past 9 months! The P/A part of the affair has ended but the talking continues on and off. Ok, the thing that is the most difficult part about this is he lives next door to me.It is sooooo tough because I see him almost everyday his children live at my house! I have been trying not to look when he's out and about, but the simple fact of the matter is we are still friend's and I want to look and I want to talk to him (well and among other things!). I have know idea how I am suppose to get him out of my head??? I have tried to look at him the way that I used to when all the feeling's where not there, but I just can't seem to view him that way anymore.I can't tell my husband that we better move because of him I am not sure what to do?? The attraction between us is WILD and I would love to explore it, that's the big problem I don't want it to end. Advice appreicated. whichwayisup-if you are out there tonight PLEASE my friend chime in!
whichwayisup Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 Well. You're definately screwed! Just trying to make you laugh abit. What do you want. A happy life with your husband or a stressful life, hiding and lying TO your husband? Start house hunting, look around and see what's out there. If you see a house you absolutely love - Show your husband. (and whatever you do, DO NOT say a word about the neighbours!!) Tell him that you've fallen inlove with the house and see what he says. Maybe he'll love it to if the price is right... The problem though is your heart. I'm not sure if you can keep up the lie to your H as long as you have the hots for your neighbour. You don't 'really' seem to wanna stop - You've gotten yourself addicted again. NOT GOOD! Look at your kids, their kids. Imagine how F'ed up their lives will be if you two get caught. NO good can come of this! None. You gotta learn some self control. Even ask him NOT to talk to because you're having a real hard time with this. Hopefully he'll understand and back off. You also need to deal with his wife more than him. Stop going out of your way to see, talk to him. It's bad bad and bad!!!!!!! Put an elastic band around your wrist and snap it against your skin when you get the urge to talk to him!!
silktricks Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 I'm not WWIU, but I'll chime in. You know what is the right thing to do. It's stay away!! When you're having a hard time, then distract yourself. Think about your husband. Plan something special with him. You know that if you allow yourself to obsess about your neighbor that no good will come of it, you'll just destroy two families. Plan a special vacation, get away from the house.
Author Meaplus3 Posted August 10, 2006 Author Posted August 10, 2006 Well. You're definately screwed! Just trying to make you laugh abit. What do you want. A happy life with your husband or a stressful life, hiding and lying TO your husband? Start house hunting, look around and see what's out there. If you see a house you absolutely love - Show your husband. (and whatever you do, DO NOT say a word about the neighbours!!) Tell him that you've fallen inlove with the house and see what he says. Maybe he'll love it to if the price is right... The problem though is your heart. I'm not sure if you can keep up the lie to your H as long as you have the hots for your neighbour. You don't 'really' seem to wanna stop - You've gotten yourself addicted again. NOT GOOD! Look at your kids, their kids. Imagine how F'ed up their lives will be if you two get caught. NO good can come of this! None. You gotta learn some self control. Even ask him NOT to talk to because you're having a real hard time with this. Hopefully he'll understand and back off. You also need to deal with his wife more than him. Stop going out of your way to see, talk to him. It's bad bad and bad!!!!!!! Put an elastic band around your wrist and snap it against your skin when you get the urge to talk to him!! Ha, Ha whichwayisup, Thanks for the laugh! Coffee just came out my nose, LOL!! :) Ok, now to be serious, I hear what you are saying, but there is no way in H**LL that we can move right now! It's funny cause I was thinking if this were a work thing at least I could look for another job, however up-rooting a family is a bit more complex! I agree with you about not talking with him. The problem is I get weak in the knees when I see him! I am a person with lot's of self control in just about every aspect of my life, however this one has thrown me for a loop my friend! Actually I don't need to deal with his wife that much, she is always working, he works too but is around alot more, kind of like Mr. Mom another appealing feature of his. Well, since there is not a whole lot I can do, I think it's best to take it day by day and keep my focus on the people in my life that are the most important to me, like my H and Children. Posting here is helping me fight so many urges so I will keep on reading and posting away! Thank's for your advice once again, keep it coming! :) AP Which should stand for ANOTHER PLAN, LOL!!
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