malibu Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 a little background: we've been together 2 1/2 yrs and have been living together for 1 1/2. everyday i feel like i just want to move out, get my own place and be single. i dont know why i feel this way, but i was wondering how do you know when that is really what you want, or if its just boredom? im asking you guys because i dont really trust my instincts as to why i want out. i want to know for sure its what i want before i destroy another persons life...thanks.
Walk Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 Hopefully someone far wiser than I will reply to this... but here's my thoughts on it. If outside the relationship is starting to really look good, then it's time to leave. If things were going well, then you wouldn't be thinking of leaving. That doesn't mean the relationship is terrible, only that its not quite right for you. Not quite the right fit. Could also be that your subconcious is seeing things your eyes are not, and that's what's causing the discord in you. It took me getting away from my ex before I was really able to see what was causing me to want to leave in the first place. Caused me a lot of turmoil right before I left because I couldnt' see what was making me unhappy. I was use to it, it didn't seem all that bad, but bad enough that I wasn't too happy being there. I waited too long to leave though... could've saved myself a year of my life if I'd just trusted my gut and left when I first realized I did want to leave. Oh, and unless you have an idea of how to make your relationship good again, then it won't change. It'd be naive to think that just by staying you could both be happy. And if you can actually destroy his life by leaving, then there might not have been much life in him to begin with. You won't be doing him any favors by staying if you aren't fully committed to making it a great relationship. And if parts of you are longing for singlehood, then you won't be fully committed to the relationship.
tearful_soul22 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 fading love..when the true potential of a relationship hasn't been met. you just know when it's time to leave when those old feelings begins to fade and then comes the disappointments, the insecurities, and the eventual withdrawal. so before you do anything drastic, talk to your partner and deal with all these issues affecting your relationship before you toss it all out. take care and good luck!
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