Guest Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 i discovered my H was cheating after reading a text message and speaking to the OW. He has ended it but he will only confess to sending 2 txt msgs! How can we move on if he cant be honest even after being busted?? I dont want the gory details.. just the truth. The OW cant be fully trusted either for obvious reasons but also because she is M and is trying to protect herself, but even she didnt try to insult my intelligence as he has by suggesting that they exchanged only 2 texts.
norajane Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 Have you tried telling him that your marriage depends on his being completely honest with you, and that he is insulting you by telling you lies? Or that you are more likely to end the marriage if he insists on denying anything more than 2 texts than you would be if he told you the truth? Maybe you should make an appointment for marriage counseling, and give him the option of going with you. He needs to understand that your marriage is at risk and if he does nothing, it will end.
cruising Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 check his cell phone records. also, if there's nothing to hide, then he shouldnt have a problem giving you his email password. dig dig dig. you will find something if you look hard enough. trust me!!
Guest Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 check his cell phone records. also, if there's nothing to hide, then he shouldnt have a problem giving you his email password. dig dig dig. you will find something if you look hard enough. trust me!! I am.. However, I hate the fact that the two of them have turned me into a paranoid snoop. I think it is over but I cant watch him all the time, and she could call his work. I could go mad keeping tabs.. but I will and god help him if he hurts me twice!
RecoverMe Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I know how it sucks being the paranoid snoop, been there and done that and uncovered dozens of calls and text messages....my husband became so sneaky and dishonest and this is the hardest thing I have to overcome are the thoughts that flood back to me over all the lies he told me. Slowly he has become more honest and admitted to more, but I feel like I will never fully know, nor perhaps want to fully know, because where does the satisfaction finally sink in that, ok.....I've got all the info I need. Because honestly the mind is a tricky thing and more thoughts can create something to look for that doesn't exist. It's such a slippery slope. I do sympathize with your doubt and loss of trust, I think it will take time and willingness on his part to work his way out of the hole he dug himself into with his acts of deception. Definitely dig for some more and when you get it very calmly show it to him. Don't be surprised if he denies it first even though you have evidence. good luck, we are all backing you here at loveshack!
sylviaguardian Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Contact the OW's husband. Two heads are better than one.
Guest Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I know how it sucks being the paranoid snoop, been there and done that and uncovered dozens of calls and text messages....my husband became so sneaky and dishonest and this is the hardest thing I have to overcome are the thoughts that flood back to me over all the lies he told me. Slowly he has become more honest and admitted to more, but I feel like I will never fully know, nor perhaps want to fully know, because where does the satisfaction finally sink in that, ok.....I've got all the info I need. Because honestly the mind is a tricky thing and more thoughts can create something to look for that doesn't exist. It's such a slippery slope. I do sympathize with your doubt and loss of trust, I think it will take time and willingness on his part to work his way out of the hole he dug himself into with his acts of deception. Definitely dig for some more and when you get it very calmly show it to him. Don't be surprised if he denies it first even though you have evidence. good luck, we are all backing you here at loveshack! Thank you for your kind words. I have been rather sneaky... I texted her pretending I was him!! I said not to phone because the other half is sleeping! Basically, I have discovered a few things that are encouraging, such as the fact that she misses him, and misses talking to him (this means he did cut off contact) and she texted her home number in the hope he would phone, so obviously he did not have this before. Couldnt figure out hoe to find out if they had slept together without arousing her suspicion (although she strikes me as being none too bright!!) In a lot of pain, still vigilant, but feeling a little more hopeful.
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