Guest Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I have been dating my girlfriend for just over 2 years. We are also living together. Over the last six months or so our relationship has slowly started to fizzle out and I am finding myself less attracted to her and feel almost like she is more of a best friend than my lover. We have spoken of getting married, but I just don't have that feeling like this is THE ONE. However there is nothing wrong with her. We don't fight and we get along really well, but it just comes back to the loss of attraction where I just feel like really good friends. I have recently met another girl at my new work who makes me feel like I did when I first met my first true love who I still think I would have married and been happy for the rest of my life(who I still regret losing to this day, but that's a whole other story). Now I'm not sure what to do. I really want to give this new girl a chance to see if she could possibly be the one... but I don't want to give up on my current girlfriend who we have built so much together. Ideally I wish we could just take a break and I could have a chance to see if I'm just precieving the grass to be greener on the other side, if you know what I mean. Normally I would just think this was lust, and come to my senses, but there is something about this girl that I know is special. I don't want to throw away my relationship over what could be a 2 week fling, I don't want to cheat or lie to my girlfriend, but I don't want to pass up an opportuninty that I could regret for a long time with someone that could be very special. I feel like this could be a life changing decision... Please HELP!!!!!
ash8752 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 You need to really think before you act on this! Ok, think cheating is not an option. You sound like a good guy so dont go that way ever! In relationships people get comfortable. I was reading once that when adults grow older and older and are asked what they love most about there partner is that they can communicate and are great friends. You are already with your best friend. I understand that this new girl gives you all these feelings, if you need to explore them you need to end your current relationship BUT like you said this may end up being a 2 week fling. Then you will lose out on your best friend, your girlfriend, your roommate etc. I really recommend forgetting about this new girl, re-evaluate your relationship without a prospect of a new person and figure it out based on you and your gf's relationship. But one more time, if you do decide to see about the newbie, break up with your gf, she deserves that. Let her find someone that will care about her as much as she deserves.
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