Ugh, she said she was gonna call yesterday or today. She didn't

[Abercrombie]

We broke up because she said she didn't want a real relationship because she just got out of an abusive one a few months before we did. She said she has to much going yet she can party at night. She says she works all the time yet when we were together she did nothing but come and see me. She was the one who called me and told me that she wanted to see me. If we didn't see each other on a particular day, she is the one who said she missed me. She is the one who wanted me to meet her father (who lives 1.5 hours away) and go to his lakehouse. She seemed REALY into me. Then one night was our mutal friends birthday. They were going bowling. I did not want to go as I had a stressful week and wanted to get drunk. We both made plans to do this earlier in the day. Then ashley calls my ex. I call my ex back and all of a sudden she is going up there and not going with me. I felt like she ditched me so i called her back. We got in an arguement and in the heat of the moment I said "Don't call me, peace" She did not answer the phone for 3 days. She messaged me on myspace replying to my message that I had sent her and she said that she didn't want to have this anymore and that she was sorry for not responding earlier but she was so busy. She said she felt like she was the only one putting effort into the relationship and that I b*tched to much.

 

 

Which I may have as I was stressed out about not having a job. So we decided on becoming friends. Well i called her and asked her to go to lunch with me some day and she responded saying "I have some runnings to do but I'll call you later today or tomorrow and we can talk about lunch." So I wait all day and no call. I would realy like her to get to know the kind and gentle side of me. But I can not do this if she stands me up. I realy feel like messaging her right now and letting everything in my heart out that I feel. It would be pushing her away but I need to explain how i feel. I need to tell her that I messed up and that I was wrong. I need to tell her that I would like a second chance and that I could make her happy. I can not take this stress. I work at 4 am in the morning now and with being overtired/her on my mind, I just break down, right at work. I hide it so noone sees it, but it isn't right.

[P1xie]

She has already stated that she did not want a relationship. That is why you broke up.

 

The I will call you is like what some girls and guys do because they think they are being more gentle. That's just my opinion though. You can try to tell her how you feel, pour your heart out but I think it's just going to be broken if she's already said she did not want a relationship.

[Abercrombie]

I don't want her to run back to me just like that. I know it can't be like that. I want to be FRIENDS with her so she gets to know who I actually am. After we broke up she said "I REALY want to be friends with you still." And I told her that i've said that many times when i've broken up with girls and it's bull****. She responded saying that she isn't like that and actaully meant it. Then in an email she said "dont be a stranger!, I'm not trying to just run away from you, but I need to do what is best for me right now."

[Guest]

give her time .. but if i was you i would not hold her in high hopes.. better be realistic.. you do not just want friendship but something more. you think she'll come to it with time.. however some women do not like to be pressured into romantic liaisons .. try remaining friends with her - however worrying why she does not call is not so friendly like, it is more boyfriendly behaviour .. if you know what i mean.. you have to accept the fact that this is probably not going to be a relationship and then you will not feel so hurt.. being friends with someone you really really fancy is not always very healthy. .. also not so healthy waiting for someone who possibly does not desire the same like you .. you deserve better.. it is just my opinion... ##but give her time .. it may be different.. just do not wait for too long

[Guest]

it seems this girl played with your feelings in the past. it seems she is still playing with you.. does not seem very mature ..

[richardcruz]

First of all, dont blame yourself for what happended between you and her. Most likely it wasnt your "don't call me" comment that lead to all of this. Most of the time there is other underlying reasons why someone leaves their significant other i.e. someone else in the picture, boredom etc.. Your ex would love to have you think that the breakup is your fault so she won't feel like the bad person, but remember, she is the one that walked away. One very important thing in this stage of your breakup that you should remeber is the saying "action speaks louder than words." Yes, she is im'ing you all this stuff but at the end of the day she flakes on you. She is telling you that she is not running away from you, but she already did by leaving your relationship. Read actions, not words. My ex would always tell me that she lov*d me and that she just needed time, then I find out that she was seeing someone else:mad: