tine_23 Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Hi! I've had this crush on this guy for like a year...but never told him because a good friend of mine told me she liked him first...so since I'm a good person I let her try to have to guy....but she didn't get him! I didn't see him for a couple of months until we met with some friends before I left for a 8 months trip last september...I learned a couple of weeks later that the next week he was going out with someone. They dated for 5 months (they broke up in january...he left her)! We kept in touch while I was gone through MSN messenger and were flirting a bit...when I came back we saw each other and 2 weeks later we were together...he told me that if I hadn't leave in september he would have asked me out instead of the other girl...and that he always tought I was so pretty ever since we met... So...while we were going out it was great he kept telling me how pretty I was and I happy he was with me and that he needed a girl like me that had lots of energy and a girl who knew what she wanted...and also he is into triathlon and had never taken one of his girlfriend for the weekend to go with him and he said that he wanted me to go with him...which we did...he was making all sorts of plans...like travelling together and he told me his mom had hope again of having grandchildrens because I was now in his life...and that his sisters liked me soo much! He took me to have dinner at his mom's boyfriend's house...it was really nice! He even told me he never thought he would have fun painting his girlfriend's bedroom when he painted mine and he thought it was soooo cool that we had this kind of fun! A month after we started going out...we slept together and he told me he loved me...and the week after that he started to act weird...like being less affectionnate and he didn't share his feelings like he used to... I freaked out and I have to admit that I started calling him more often...lke every day...and I was very hurt and I told him and he told me I was calling too often (everyday...is it too often??) and that sort of things...so I dump him before it became more serious... I miss him so much... and he says he doens't have time to miss me... (because of his triathlon...he trains like 6 hours/day)...anyway...I tried to stay friends with him...and he won't even talk to me...I was angry about it the other day so I told him...and we kinda got in a fight... when I try to talk to him he's all angry and make me feel like I'm a b*tch (but I'm not) and like he doens't give a sh*t about me...which is weird...cuz he still talks to his ex (the one he left in january)!... I asked him yesterday if it would be ok with him to start things all over like when we first met a little onger then a year ago and he said ok but don't start thinking that because we are talking it means that I wanna get back with you and that something might happen in the future...why did he say that??? I only asked him to talk again... why would he say that...it's so weird! don't you think? I miss him I wish we could still talk to each other... Anyway....I really don't know what happened and what went throught his head...why did he start to act all weird...he said he had never had anyone like me before in his life and he was so happy! What happened people...what do you think??? I'm going cray trying to understand! Do you thinkf he's mad or he just doesn't care about me...??? Do you think he's still sad...he said he doesn't miss me...and he really doesn't seem to... he has not try to contact me... HELP!!!!!!
moman Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Typical wishy-washy male. You gave him what he wanted and then he bolted. I admit as a guy that once a girl catipulates in the sack there is a lot less pressure to impress or to care. The key here is that if he likes you, he would WANT to care. I suspect that he just wanted one thing, got caught up in the chase, then decided it wasn't what he wanted after all. You have to move on. If he likes you he will chase you.
Author tine_23 Posted August 9, 2006 Author Posted August 9, 2006 I guess you're right...he is kinda wishy-washy... his mom even told me about it ahaha... she told me "My boy needs a girl that knows what she wants...he's kinda "lazy" in his relationships..." Is it possible that maybe he did like me and did fall in love with me but realized that he is not ready for a serious relationship... (he did tell me he wanted a resious thing...not just 3 months...) so he's looking around...but still like me??...and acts like he doesn't??? he kept me on his msn...has not blocked me so I still see when he's online... when we are talking with friends around a table he doesn't look at me one during a whole hour even thought he's sitting almost right in front of me......isn't it weird??...is it possible to not care that much?? I know I'm probably dreaming...but...it is possible??
drownindreams Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 There are lots of other men out there who are mature enough to back up their words with action. Anyone who is "too busy" to make a phone call or even think about someone they care about sounds like a big ******* to me. You sound like a committed, loving person... I'm sure you will find someone who can appreciate you better in the future. Don't give up looking!
Author tine_23 Posted August 15, 2006 Author Posted August 15, 2006 I'm trying NC...it's hard but working...I haven't talked to him since last monday we're tuesday the next week... I had not been talking to him las tmonths for like 3 weeks...and started to talk to him after that cuz I thought things were gonna be ok when after that...doesn't seem like it... I'm the one who left him...why doesn't he wanna talk to me... isn't it suppose to be me that's mad?? Also...when I talked to him the next day (that I had asked him about starting our friendship all over again) and told him that I don't know who and were he got this "information" from (that I wanted to get back together with him) but I do not wanna get back together...just like him... I just can't stand the fact that it's still weird when we're around each other... that's the last time I talked to him... I think I made a mistake by telling him I don't wanna get back together just like him...but my pride makes me do stupid things... I don't understand why he keeps being mad like that... he wasn't mad when we left each other..then I got mad because he was ignoring me and we didn't say we were doing NC...we go into an argument... He stold me it was stupid to act the way I did... that I was being mad for no reason... When we broke up he even told me that we were going to see each otheroften because we have the same friends... and do our training at the same pool... Why is he still acting like he's mad??? I'm gonna keep doing NC and next time I see him (probably at the pool...we are both swimmers)...I'll just say and Hi and that's it... keep doing that for a little while...and then we'll see..is it a good idea??? The truth is...I'm still thinking about him... trying to regain the friendship we had before we started to go out with each other...we used to be friends... that's why I don't understand why he doesn't talk to me... (he has stayed friends with most of his exs...why not me??) Any tips on how to gain his trust and friendship again??
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