everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Here's the deal: I see beautiful women all of the time with guys with huge guts, nasty tattoos, no job and criminal histories. I also witness plenty of women "head over heels" for guys that treat them badly, inlcuding being unfaithful. What gives? Now before you go flaming me, I base this information on years of experience. I have a friend who is very stable, decent looking, just bought a house and his gf of 6 years dumps him! WTF? I have dated many women that it did not work out with because 1) They wanted to "date around" 2) They are not ready for a "relationship" And there is a plethora of other reasons. But then I will see them weeks later hanging all over some guy that I know is bad news (as described above). Now I have a stable career, a home business, 2 cars, a nice apartment and a ripped body. But I am 29 and single because the moment a woman starts "flaking out" I call her out on it. I have at least 5 friends who fit this description and they are ALL single. Now I am not a womanizer but I feel this is partly a result of American society. here are my reasons: 1) Women are coddled since birth. They most often get special treatment as a child because they are "pretty" and feminine and then they grow to expect the same treatment in adulthood. 2) Women get away with a lot more than a man can. if a woman abuses a man (it does happen more fothen than you think) and he retaliates to control her - who do you trhink is going to jail? Not the woman! 3) Women want a fairy tale relationship. I mean get real here! A lot of women flake out at the first sign of a flaw in a man and dump him. get a grip ladies! You are not perfect, neither is the man and there is no such thing as happily ever after. A relationship takes work and understanding... not to mention communication. There NEVER will be a happily ever after! 4) Women are more emotional than a man. While this is mostly true, another double standard thrives here. If a man puts a woman down (whether it is a valid reason or not) he is instantly labeled as a dick head. Wher eif a woman does it to a man - he is expected to just take it and "be a man". Now go ahead and flame me ladies, I could use the entertainment.
alphamale Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I have at least 5 friends who fit this description and they are ALL single. Birds of a feather flock together...all six of you need to procure some good old-fashioned American masculinity. Yes, and this means being a dick sometimes.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 OP, those ugly guys with the huge guts probably also have huge wangs. Either that, or Alpha is right, they don't want to be coddled, they want guys who seem indifferent to their needs.
Yamaha Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Man. Some chick must have really did a number on you. If they left you for a jerk what does that say about you?
burning 4 revenge Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Man. Some chick must have really did a number on you. If they left you for a jerk what does that say about you?It says he's probably a decent guy. Women hate decent men unless they have huge wangs, or lots of money.
nicki Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Masculine is good. All us women like that. Makes us feel like women. But, the women you are describing who are with criminals and other deadbeats are mentally unhealthy. You guys don't want a beautiful woman who is mental, do you? Maybe you do. Is beautiful the only criteria? Don't you get it? These women are not attracted to normal, wonderful guys. That's why they are crazy. And you wouldn't want them. Stop confusing the rest of us women with these crazy types. And we'll stop confusing you great guys with the other good-looking guys who drive sports cars and only go out with stupid buxom blondes.
Yamaha Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 It says he's probably a decent guy. Women hate decent men unless they have huge wangs, or lots of money. DO you really believe that, B4R?
Author everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 Birds of a feather flock together...all six of you need to procure some good old-fashioned American masculinity. Yes, and this means being a dick sometimes. Alpha, you have like a million posts here and most of your advice falls into one category "masculinity". A real joker. I guess me and friends are not masculine because I don't have a nasty tattoo on my neck or a beer gut. I really think you do not know what you are talking about. Masculinty is different things to different people. To me, masculinity is living my life according to my rules, not the messed up views of our society. Go get your tattoo and your street bike. Does that make the man? You'll just wind up dead before me and I will be f@* your widow.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 DO you really believe that, B4R?I'll tell you what I honestly believe Yamaha. I'm starting to believe that on the whole men have more depth than women. Oh, women will pretend to be all sensitive but when it comes down to it they are sesitive to their needs only. The reason so many women turn to men who are cold and indifferent and actually despise the so-called "sensitive" men only validates my theory. It's all about the tangibles
Author everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 It says he's probably a decent guy. Women hate decent men unless they have huge wangs, or lots of money. How would you know how big my wang is if you wouldn't date me because I am a "decent" guy?
Author everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 Man. Some chick must have really did a number on you. If they left you for a jerk what does that say about you? If they left me for a jerk, it says nothing about me. It does however, speak volumes of the personality of the woman.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 How would you know how big my wang is if you wouldn't date me because I am a "decent" guy?I'm a guy. I was just venting
nicki Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I think you are all decent guys who have not yet known enough decent women. Decent guys with big wangs are in short supply. We must protect them like endangered species...and breed with them often to increase their supply.
Author everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 I think you are all decent guys who have not yet known enough decent women. Decent guys with big wangs are in short supply. We must protect them like endangered species...and breed with them often to increase their supply. Nicki - It is apparent to me that you are one of the FEW. Godspeed to you. You give me hope.
pricillia Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Hi Everybody Chill, How many times has this happened to you, not all women are like the ones that you describe. It sounds like you have alot to offer. I would not give up on women just like we should not give up on men. I was wondering if you should be alone for a little while just to shake off all the crap you obiously got from your girls. I hope everything works out for you. You get what you give! Pricillia
Author everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 Hi Everybody Chill, How many times has this happened to you, not all women are like the ones that you describe. It sounds like you have alot to offer. I would not give up on women just like we should not give up on men. I was wondering if you should be alone for a little while just to shake off all the crap you obiously got from your girls. I hope everything works out for you. You get what you give! Pricillia Thanks Pricillia. I do feel like I have a lot to offer, and that is partially the cause of my frustration. This has happened to me a lot since I split from my ex over 3 years ago. I have dated at least 10 women since then. And by the way, she left me for a drug dealer. You get what you give? Not in my case. I give a lot of respect (until she flakes) but I get nothing back.
norajane Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 If your only criteria for dating women is whether they are beautiful, then I'm not surprised you and your friends are running into trouble. Those women are desired by all men, so you are just one of many competing for the same girl. Or perhaps you are meeting your dates in the wrong places - bars and poolhalls aren't likely to attract the decent ladies whom you say you'd like to meet. Or they might be there, hoping to meet a decent guy, but you overlook them because they aren't as flashy and beautiful.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Nora, these days it's often the women and not the men who want something flashy and beautiful. Or maybe I'm just bitter. Really, really, really bitter. Like citric acid
Author everybody_chill Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 If your only criteria for dating women is whether they are beautiful, then I'm not surprised you and your friends are running into trouble. Those women are desired by all men, so you are just one of many competing for the same girl. Or perhaps you are meeting your dates in the wrong places - bars and poolhalls aren't likely to attract the decent ladies whom you say you'd like to meet. Or they might be there, hoping to meet a decent guy, but you overlook them because they aren't as flashy and beautiful. I know plenty of people who have meet in pool halls or bars. I have heard enough of that stigmata. it's not true, you could meet just as raunchy of a person in church, believe me. I go after girls who are beautiful to me. I will never lower my standards, NEVER. beauty is not everything, but it is a good place to start. Let's be REAL. You can't date someone that you aren't attracted to. Well, you could but it would go no where. please don't tell me it is wrong to want a nice looking woman. I know what I want and being attractive is PART of the equation, but not all of it. So I guess it is okay for a woman to be an azz just because she is beautful? WRONG
pricillia Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Thanks Pricillia. I do feel like I have a lot to offer, and that is partially the cause of my frustration. This has happened to me a lot since I split from my ex over 3 years ago. I have dated at least 10 women since then. And by the way, she left me for a drug dealer. You get what you give? Not in my case. I give a lot of respect (until she flakes) but I get nothing back. well your girlfriend sounds like she is long gone. The 10 women tthat you have dated since then were they similar to her or each other. What are you looking for in a women. I know that when I took a break(longer than yours by the way) I found that when I got back into things my taste for men changed allot, I had a broader view so to speak.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I know plenty of people who have meet in pool halls or bars. I have heard enough of that stigmata.I think you meant stigma. Stigmata is bleeding from your hands and feet like a crucified jesus
Walk Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Gotta love the broad generalizations and sterotypical thoughts. Least you could do is be a little creative... although I did like the biker-beer gut twist you put on this one. That was inventive. Same story, different screen name. Its sad to see such confusion in someone. Pull your undescended nut sake out, square your shoulders and be a MAN!! Stop blaming women because you got passed over for another schmuck. Finger points at you and no one else. You find fault in EVERYONE but yourself. Her, the biker guy, your friends gf.... you're blameless. The uncontested victim of a conspirecy against you.. The world must be out to get you... so sad..must suck to live that way. The rest of us though... we'll look inside ourselves, try to fix what is fixable inside ourselves. We'll grow as individuals and attract other people who will want to stay in our lives because they share our strength and balance. You on the other hand, are stumbling all over the dang place. No strength, and no balance.
blind_otter Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I think you meant stigma. Stigmata is bleeding from your hands and feet like a crucified jesus Yes, b4r is correct, OP. All women blah blah blah. All men blah blah blah. I'm sorry that a particular female treated you this way. Perhaps you should examine the types of women you tend to be attracted to.
norajane Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I know plenty of people who have meet in pool halls or bars. I have heard enough of that stigmata. it's not true, you could meet just as raunchy of a person in church, believe me. I go after girls who are beautiful to me. I will never lower my standards, NEVER. beauty is not everything, but it is a good place to start. Let's be REAL. You can't date someone that you aren't attracted to. Well, you could but it would go no where. please don't tell me it is wrong to want a nice looking woman. I know what I want and being attractive is PART of the equation, but not all of it. So I guess it is okay for a woman to be an azz just because she is beautful? WRONG There's a difference between raunchy and messed up in her head. There's a difference between beautiful and attractive. You obviously aren't able to see that, which is why you are the one with the problem. Nowhere did I say it's ok for a woman to be an ass because she is beautiful...it's not ok for anyone to be an ass, including you. I suspect you might want to take a deeper look at yourself to find why you are attracted to and attracting women who behave likes asses.
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