rina_r Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 What kind of porn does he watch? is it bisexual, transexual, or regular with a bit of midget mixed in? Or is it just striaght ol porn? Porn is porn, and I prefer to watch it together.
Guest Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 My bf and i did that last night for the first time in a long time (watched together). It was great!
john1776 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 It seems like a willingness to have sex is a requirement for being in a relationship. Many of you basically saying that if a man does not want to have sex then he has no business being in a relationship. What about his other qualities? What if he's not cheating and he's not abusive?
rina_r Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Sex is an important part of a relationship. Whats good if he is not cheating and not abusive but IS impotent????
norajane Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 It seems like a willingness to have sex is a requirement for being in a relationship. Many of you basically saying that if a man does not want to have sex then he has no business being in a relationship. What about his other qualities? What if he's not cheating and he's not abusive? A lot of people develop a deeper emotional intimacy with each other through sex, in addition to the physical intimacy. There's nothing like looking into your lover's eyes when he's inside you and you're moving together...it's mindblowing and amazing to see and feel each other's love that way. It creates a bond that goes beyond what can be created in any other way. It adds so much to a relationship that's already good. Cheating and abusing takes something away from a relationship - trust and intimacy - but not-cheating and not-abusing doesn't ADD anything...it's just part of a good foundation.
ash8752 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 It's great for a guy to not abuse and not cheat, but that SHOULD come standard in a committed relationship. I would not be with my bf if he did those things, as i would not be with my bf if he wasnt funny, caring and my best friend. BUT I also dont think i would STILL be with my bf if he refused sex with me for 15 months (how long we have been together.) It is another way to love eachother, to be intimate, and it is expressing not only our emotional love but our sexual love. Besides, it is a great release to orgasm too and i'd rather do that with my man than by myself. I am on birth control, we are faithful in our relationship and we have both been tested. Very safe, very fun, very stable relationship. SEX IS FANTASTIC!
rina_r Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 A lot of people develop a deeper emotional intimacy with each other through sex, in addition to the physical intimacy. There's nothing like looking into your lover's eyes when he's inside you and you're moving together...it's mindblowing and amazing to see and feel each other's love that way. It creates a bond that goes beyond what can be created in any other way. It adds so much to a relationship that's already good. Amen to that!
john1776 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 It's great for a guy to not abuse and not cheat, but that SHOULD come standard in a committed relationship. I would not be with my bf if he did those things, as i would not be with my bf if he wasnt funny, caring and my best friend. BUT I also dont think i would STILL be with my bf if he refused sex with me for 15 months (how long we have been together.) It is another way to love eachother, to be intimate, and it is expressing not only our emotional love but our sexual love. Besides, it is a great release to orgasm too and i'd rather do that with my man than by myself. I am on birth control, we are faithful in our relationship and we have both been tested. Very safe, very fun, very stable relationship. SEX IS FANTASTIC! It would not make sense to dump your boyfriend just because he refused to have sex if everything else in the relationship was great. I mean if you are attracted to him enough to want to sleep with him then why dump him? Why not wait? There's plenty of guys out there in this world who want to get laid but can't because women find nothing attractive about them. What are you going to do if the only guys you find attractive enough to sleep with don't want to sleep with you? What are you going to do if the only guys who want to have sex are not attractive at all?
allina Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 It would not make sense to dump your boyfriend just because he refused to have sex if everything else in the relationship was great. I value and respect your input but I don't think it's possible to say that he won't have sex but everything else is great. In a relationship everything is intertwined, you can not just take one aspect out and seperate it. Sex may not be everything but it IS a part of a normal and healthy relationship, and chances are that a man who will not have sex with his SO has some major emotional issues that he needs to deal with to make a romantic relationship successful.
john1776 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I value and respect your input but I don't think it's possible to say that he won't have sex but everything else is great. In a relationship everything is intertwined, you can not just take one aspect out and seperate it. Sex may not be everything but it IS a part of a normal and healthy relationship, and chances are that a man who will not have sex with his SO has some major emotional issues that he needs to deal with to make a romantic relationship successful. I see what you are saying but in the final analysis you dump a guy because you no longer find him attractive. If you dump him because he won't have sex with you then are you saying that his lack of desire to have sex makes him unattractive to you? If so then you wouldn't desire to have sex with him either correct? Kind of hard to want sex with someone if they are no longer attractive. Otherwise you have a paradox here.
stoopid_guy Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I value and respect your input but I don't think it's possible to say that he won't have sex but everything else is great. In a relationship everything is intertwined, you can not just take one aspect out and seperate it. Sex may not be everything but it IS a part of a normal and healthy relationship, and chances are that a man who will not have sex with his SO has some major emotional issues that he needs to deal with to make a romantic relationship successful. And sex is more important to some than others, many of us consider that a "show-stopper" in a relationship. It would not make sense to dump your boyfriend just because he refused to have sex if everything else in the relationship was great. I'd bet everyone has certain things that are critical. Suppose your SO was perfect in every way except that he/she refused to bathe?
allina Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 in the final analysis you dump a guy because you no longer find him attractive. No, I have never broken up with someone because I no longer found him attractive, it has always been because there was some issue that could not be solved or it just was not working out. I'm not saying that the OP should break things off with her bf, thought I myself probably would, this would have nothing to do with attraction but I know that the lack of physical intimacy/sex in a long and serious relationship would make me uncomfortable. I would feel like something was missing (other than the sex) and like something was going on in my SO's mind that not healthy.
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