ex girlfriend trouble here

[vlhs004]

Ok me and my girlfriend broke up about 4 months ago and we were together for about 2 years. . . . when we broke up it wasnt a typical breakup . . . she told me she knows we are going to end up getting married and she knows we will end up together in the end and she needs to go out and date other people to see what she really wants and make sure we are right for each other. The next night she was at another guys house with some friends . . she had knew the guy for about a month but they were just acquaintances really. . . but anyways they "messed around" with each other about a week and a half after the breakup and she said they are dating . .. i dont understand how you can get with someone else that soon when we had a very strong loving and intimate relationship. we talked about the first 2 and a half months after we broke up about once a week and she would constantly ask if i was dating anyone or done wnything with anyone else. . . i did try to get her back that entire time. she called me crying a few times saying she needed someone to talk to . . .and just a little sidenote . . .the guy she is dating is someone i went to hs with and she knew b4 she started dating him that i couldnt stand him . . .and we also live in the same town and know the same people (small town) and i have to hear about it everyday.. .. . but anyways i havent talked to her for about 1 and a half months and shes tried to contact me about 5 or 6 times . . ..leaving me texts, voice mails, emails . . claiming she just wants to see how im doing and ive made it clear that i cant be friends with her that it is to hard for me to know shes with someone i hate and have no respect for.. . . . so i guess im just trying to get some advice from some women on what she might be thinking or if you guys just think this is a rebound relationship. . they have been together for about 4 months now. .. .and she has admitted to me that she hates to be alone and didnt deny the fact that she only got with him in the first place because he was there! . . .so i just need some advice on what the women think . .. even though i dont think i could ever take her back i still care for her and dont want to see her with someone like him. shes also told him a couple times that she misses me and misses talking to me!!. . as u can probobly tell im not over her yet and ive decided not to go for a rebound because i have always heard it is better to let your heart heal naturally. .. .but whenever i would talk to her after the breakup its almost like she wouldnt face it and wouldnt show any emotion and would avoid talking about it . . .well what do u guys think . . .just need some advice from men and women on what you think . . what do u women think is going on in her head?

[moman]

Sounds like my ex. Forget about her. This is a control game and she is keeping you on a string, knowing that you are a backup plan when it falls apart with Mr. Romeo. The only way you will win this game is to set her free, tell her never to bother you again, and get on with your own life. The best thing would be to find a new girl and make sure that she knows about, but be true to the new girl, don't just use her as arm candy or you will be doing the same thing to her your ex is doing to you.