noturningback Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Since March, I've been coping with a huge crush on a girl I'm friends with. We're not close friends, as I've only known her since March, but we talk a lot when we're around each other, and we have been to a party together before, but that's the extent of everything. I've never been so crazy about someone ever since laying eyes on them. She's an amazing person, that pretty much everyone has a crush on. She has this beauty that makes gay men turn straight, literally. Every good thing a guy can think of in a girl, she seems to have. Earlier in the summer, I tagged along with her and her friends to go to a party. Late into the night, something weird happened. We're on the floor dancing, she came up to me, put her arms me, gave me a huge hug, and kissed me on the lips. There are so many times when I am around her, that I feel like I am getting some type of vibe from her that may hint some sort of interest. But then I psyche myself out and tell myself that it's only wishful thinking. I think about her all the time, and in the beginning stages, I've even lost a little sleep over it as well. Now, it's a lot better, but she is still always in my mind. The dilemma? She has a boyfriend. I don't know much about this guy, only that I've met him once when she introduced us, and that he's never with her when she goes out. One day, after introducing the two of us, her bf left for a while, and we were by ourselves. She came up to me and said that she didn't tell her man that I was at that party we all went to. I asked why, and she stated that it's because her man gets really jealous and will confront her about it, and that she really just doesn't want to get into it with him. With a puzzled look on myself, I asked why he doesn't just go with her? She stated that she'd rather be there without him, so she's free to do whatever, and not have to worry about things. Throughout the months of knowing this girl, it was almost apparent that she isn't happy in the relationship she is in, but being the good spirited person she is, she'll always still smile about it. Up to this day, she has no clue of how I feel about her. I'm completely head over heels for her, but she has a man, and regardless of how bad her relationship might be, I just can't play the role of the "other guy" and tamper with what the two of them have, as I know what it is like being on the receiving end of that. Apologies for the long post, but any advice is greatly appreciated.
Poboy Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 well , since she has a bf there is not much point . but if this thing is troubling you , you got to tell her and get it off your chest ... if she says no , then stop seeing her & if going by what you said ( she is not happy with her bf ) , she might say yes to you which would be unlikely but possible , your call whether to make the move or not
bluechocolate Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 She has this beauty that makes gay men turn straight, literally. Every good thing a guy can think of in a girl, she seems to have. Like a dick? Seriously though, she has a b/f and says this: She stated that she'd rather be there without him, so she's free to do whatever, and not have to worry about things. Now, would you want a g/f like that? If she's unhappy in her relationship, why not leave? Being free to do whatever (like kissing blokes at parties I guess) AND having a b/f around must be a state she is somewhat happy with. Anyway, if you like her so bad, tell her that when she's available (ie. single) you'd be interested in dating.
Author noturningback Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 Of course I wouldn't want to be involved with someone who has a hard time being faithful, but when you are that crazy about someone, and an opportunity falls onto your lap, you can't help but let common sense be thrown out the window. I don't know the whole story of what's going on in her relationship, and frankly, it isn't any of my business. Pretty much all of my friends tell me that I need to talk to her and let her know. Basically that I need closure on this whole matter. Anywho, thanks for the advice...
moman Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Let's get this straight. That girl made it very clear she was interested in you, at least for a one night stand. And you are doing nothing? WTF? Screw her boyfriend, that is HER problem, not YOURS. Get your ass on the phone and call her, tell you her to meet you at X place at X time, and if she is game, she will accept or counteroffer. Else blow her off.
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