Guest Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 i'll try keep this brief. i thought i made this post but it never showed up. i dated a girl for two and a half years. we broke up about 5 months ago. i wanted to get back together, she did not...and yes i did most things explained on this site. about a month ago she messaged me for the first time. i kept my guard up for most of the time. she begain messaging me increasingly more. she started becoming more flirtatious and would say things like "we can go dancing". she even started saying that she was looking at pictures of us kissing the other night. even with this, i kept to myself. a few days after i decided to offer to hangout. she declined and said it would be weird. i said i had no intentions of making a "move" but would like to hangout. she coldy replied "we are not getting back together". after which i asked why she messaged me to begin with and she says "to see how you were". i then replied that i wish her well but she should leave me alone. now if i was playing the "game" i woudlnt have asked to hangout after playing it chill for the past few weeks. i basically told myself i would reach back out to her and not play any game. after reading through a few posts it seems she probably was missing me and wanted to see if she could get me back. why would she be so selfish to try and play with my head? it's one thing to talk friendly but to bring up certain things like that just isn't right. what are some views you guys have? this whole deal brought me back a few steps. Mr X
Guest2 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 It seems a bit odd that she kept messaging you and then was cold when you suggested hanging out. She was selfish in her behavior, but my guess is that she is insecure. Something happened that made her want to get in touch with you. She knows that you care so you are a safe and easy ego booster. Your request that she leave you alone is best for now. You will be capable of contact with her after you are over being hurt. Until then, you are just leaving yourself open to being hurt by her behavior. I say that there are plenty of better fish in the sea. Stay away from a girl that claims she cares but runs hot and cold with you.
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