Guest Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Well, Where to begin, my wife and I were asked to go up to her parents place to gather up some of their belongings before they moved out west. We rented a U-Haul, asked her sister and boyfriend if they'd give us a hand cause I was under the impression they'd like some items from her folks place. We filled an entre 17ft U-Haul to the roof! We then had to drive an additional 15km or so to drop off the sister in laws stuff. Mind you they had half a truck full of items. When we finished unloading the vehicle, my wie politely reminded them about the cost of the truck arund 225$ with gas CDN. Her sister freaked out, "We were helping you and took only the stuff you didn't want." Then yelling for her boyfriend, "Can you beleive they want us to pay!??!" The wife was getting a bit irritated cause the entire cost was on my shoulders and we really hadn't picked up 225$ worth of stuff for her apt. Apparently everyone wants something for nothing... they got it. I don't know what was agreed upon I just told the wife, lets go... forget this. I'm just a little P.O'd about this responce from her sister, we were completey taken advantage of and I'm angry about it. Very angry. I'm not sure where to go from here. I don't want to talk to my sister in law anymore. I don't want to see her either. But I know my wife is the type to forgive and forget in time. I need some advice, do I black list my own family, or do I forgive and just move on knowing I'll never let this go.
norajane Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I can see how this would be irritating, but really, is $225 worth creating a family rift? You don't have to be best friends with her, but you can be sure that if you turn this into a big issue, it will affect your relationship with your wife. As you said, you don't know what was said or agreed upon beforehand. If your wife isn't upset and wants to let it go, follow her lead and move on. Karma always comes back and does the work for you...grasping people who want something for nothing, generally are miserable in their lives anyway and never have much in their lives to show for all the grasping. Carrying a grudge is usually worse for you than for the person you carry it against. Forgiveness is not for her...it's for your benefit so you don't have all the bad feelings inside you all the time.
penkitten Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 i agree with norajane. family and money dont ever mix well. from now on, if you need her to pay a share of something , you make her do it in the first place or its not gonna happen.
RecordProducer Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 This is BS. You are family, for god's sake. Tomorrow you will need something and she will spend a couple grand without expecting you to pay her back. Or she will help you in other ways, perhaps baby-sit your kids or go out of her way to help you. You're being rude for asking money, IMHO. I am not cheap and have enough money, but if my in-law asked me to pay them for something, I would be very offended. Yet I would hand them the money. And never ask anything from them or do any favors to them unless it's a matter of life and death.
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