Kirlin Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 hey i realy desperately need some help on this one.. i care about my bf of 1 year and a half and im not sure if i loved him i did before i just ended up not trusting him and scared if i lose him hell meet somebody else.. im worried bout him and how he lives his life were also bestfriends i just need to no if this is love or infatuation we also had sex alot and show things that we care bout eachother but deep down inside im not sure if i love him .. if this is infatuation can u plz tell me how to get out of it and i no infatuation can sometimes turn into love how can i get it to be that way i no itall take a while to regain my love for him he loves me but i just need some tips please on how to trust someone and feel confertble round them and fall in love not write away but slowly maybe starting out as friends? i dont no ( but then i cant keep my hands off him )oh and if ur gonna view this please leave me a message some advice LOL thanks
American Guy Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Kirlin, if its love, you'll know it, there will be no guessing on your part. You can't possibly know what he's feeling unless he tells you. But I sense he's done/said things that leave you unsure. Go with your gut feeling which I'm hearing is that you don't completely love him. The best thing about love is that distance can make it grow stronger. If its infatuation, distance will end it. So I suggest backing off and keep in touch though but give it a cooling off period and see what happens.
superconductor Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Kirlin, if its love, you'll know it, there will be no guessing on your part. Nonsense. Love is not a feeling, love is a decision. Infatuation is a feeling, and a short-term one at that. Go with your gut feeling which I'm hearing is that you don't completely love him. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Gut feelings are the absolute worst way to decide upon these things. Yes, really. Use your head. Don't trust your gut.
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