Darin Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 So my ex and I have been back together again for just over a month. We had a wonderful vacation that she paid for (about $3000 to san francisco and surrounding areas). When we were together I had paid for rent, electricity, etc... so i guess it felt good to see her spend so much money on us. (EDIT: not because I felt like she should spend money on us, but because I feel like that is a true sign of a new committment to our relationship -- to do something like that took a lot out of her and from her and I feel like that, plus the way we felt and spent time together, was an exceptionally big step in us getting back together) We live 600 miles apart now (after 4 months of separation I decided to move back to my home town). Now she's having some issues. She says that the distance is making being back together very tough. We've seen eachother 3 times since deciding to give it another go. I agree 110% that being so far apart makes things rough. It's especially rough on her since she still really doesn't have any good friends around her atm. Hopefully that'll change when school starts up, but for now all she does is work and then come home and we talk on the phone for hours, etc. I have offered to take yet another life risk and move back to her. She says, however, that she's afraid. She's afraid that the doldrums and things that negatively affected our relationship in the past that made her unhappy enough to leave will return and that she will break my heart again and "ruin my life" by having had me move back away from my family and have to switch jobs again. Ultimately she says she wants to be with me and that she realized while we were apart how much of a mistake leaving me was and how wonderful I am and so forth. Any advice? P.S. She's unwilling to move here. She has a great paying job (I am currently looking for a job again) and her father is much older than my parents and is a concern. She doesn't want to move away from her family.
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