HopefulOne Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 While I do believe in no call and to be able to heal yourself to move on, what I do not believe in is the games that people seem to play, NC is not a game. If you want to be with that person, then you should make your feelings known, not play some kind of game, if they do not feel the same, then they do not feel the same, it hurt's like hell, yes but if the two of you in the relationship are playing games, then the relationship is doomed. I do not believe in the make sure he/she knows that you are seeing other people, if they want to be with you, then they want to be with you. Maybe it's just me but if you are both stubborn and don't want to admit feelings, it's not going to get any better. We are all scared to some degree ( yes, even me) but you'll never know what's it like to love if you don't put yourself out there ( this is a hard lesson that I learned). Last but not least, you can't love someone else until you can love yourself ( I know it's cliche, but it's true). You have to believe in yourself !!!
Brittjean06 Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 True that! aH I hate those " push and pull relationships". And those head games I hope those change with maturity? You are right if those head games keep getting played than your relationship is doomed to end and that hopefully can be a lesson for people who are stupid enough to just use Nc to hurt their ex. That says they don't love themselves because if they did they would do Nc for themselves. So yes most importantly you must love your self before loving anyone else. Makes perfect sense:)
Guest Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Let's face it - NC usually means the other person has something or someone else on their mind usually anyways. There is a really neat article on this site - it's called 6 Good Reasons for NC - and ya know I persoally think it is the best advice anyone could ever give or read. And the night I read it a lighbulb went off in my head - like duh right? - but love is blind and until you read about other people and their experiences nothing makes sense. These sites are great for folks to get help and to see that they are not ALONE - many of us go through this in life, but I do believe it has made me stronger than I have ever been and I know that god is leading me on a much better path. And I guess another great thing I read recently said "You already have your own ahole, so why do you need another?" Ha - I loved it! Take Care folks!
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