babygirl24 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I've been married for 6 years to a man I thought was "the one". Everything was great til about a year ago when something led to me think he had sex with a girl. He denied it and I kept thinking that something happened. Ever since that things went downhill from there. I don't trust him and I'm not in love with him anymore. This is my first marriage and it's hard for me to not have feelings for him and I would do anything for him. But to say that I'm in love with him is a lie. To add to this he hates my son who is not his. They are constantly fighting and my husband has hurt him mentally and physically once. I have stayed for the 2 girls we have together but now I'm regretting it. I know I should of left a long time ago. He apologizes for being mean to my son but he goes and yells at him anyway. My son is constantly crying and I believe he is depressed. I believe this is reason enough to leave but I feel guilty everytime I suggest splitting. I don't know what to do. And since I've been hurting for a long time I went a gave him a tste of his own medicine by cheating on him. This was wrong of me but I think he deserved it. Now I'm in love with this guy who I think is my soulmate and he wants to move here from Iowa. I want nothing more then that to happen. But I need to leave my current situation so I can be with him. I've opened up to my husband and told him about the affairs and how I feel and he thinks we can get thru it but I don't want to get thru it, I want to leave. I just want him to say that it's over so I don't feel bad breaking it off. How do I get the guts to leave so I can be truly happy? What should I say? I need help because I'm hurting inside from not being happy myself and from seeing my son unhappy. Any help would be great!!!
P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Now I'm in love with this guy who I think is my soulmate and he wants to move here from Iowa. I want nothing more then that to happen. But I need to leave my current situation so I can be with him. I've opened up to my husband and told him about the affairs and how I feel and he thinks we can get thru it but I don't want to get thru it, I want to leave. I just want him to say that it's over so I don't feel bad breaking it off. Sounds like you've already made your decision. Leave him. No relationship or marriage ends without bad feelings. That is life. Feel bad then when you are set in Iowa with the man you love, feel happy. I think you need to think of your own happiness and your child safety before you think of his. He lost that privlegde by abusing your son.
Outcast Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 You get the guts to leave because your son is being hurt and your first job as his mother is to forget about your fears and do whatever you have to to protect him.
Author babygirl24 Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 I told him the last time he yelled at my son that I was leaving and he asked me "why would you leave me and let ***** have his way? You know he doesn't want to be here. And if you leave me you're letting him win." I thought this was a very selfish thing for him to say. How can he say that about a kid who is sad all the time when he's acting like a kid himself wanting his own way! So my next question is, should I wait until he says something to him again or should I just go, that way I have the ammo I need to leave this time?
P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Just go. He's hurting your child physically and emotionally.
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