DugoutDoug Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I met this girl on the internet and we talked on the phone for 4-5 hours a day for 3 months... and we never got bored of each other and she always used to tell me "this is real love the way how ive never seen you and uve never seen me but all that matters is our personalities"... So a month ago we saw each other for 10 min cause i had other **** to do and we kissed... and she called me that night and we talked till 2 am... 2 days later i took her to the movies... She told me "come to my house and pick me up" so I went but then she told me "my mom wants to see u" so she presented her and we said hi and all that and then we left... When we got to the movies we cuddled madeout... she licked my ear and told me she loved me... A few days later she left to go to toronto for a week... And when she came back she called me and we talked alot... Tuesday came around... I called her she didnt answer... Wednesday came around I called her and she finally answered and we talked and she gave me some bull**** excuse of how she was busy so when we ended the convo i told her... "call me tomorrow"... Thursday came she didnt call after i called 4 times... Friday she gets on msn and broke up with me there I was like call me atleast and tell me whats going on dont do this like this... She called me and told me she doesnt have time to be my girlfriend and that she has alot of problems and i asked her what kind of problems she wouldnt say... A few minutes later she started crying and started talking about her mother and how shes dissapointed her during the years and she said im always afraid that my mom is going to die because of me... Now how I saw this **** is that the mom told her to break up with me because maybe she didnt like the way i looked cause imma be honest i wasnt lookin too classy to be presented to her mom... What should I do? Be friends with her cause i cant... I love her too much... And in 6 months ill be in the same college as her so should i just wait till then? what should i do?
littlepiggy1 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Break ups are never fun and it's going to hurt for awhile. You both are young and from the sounds of her, she sounds a bit confused about what she was feeling. If I had to guess, I would wager that the initial "puppy love" phase of the relationship was wearing off and she just didn't feel strongly enough to want to stay in the relationship. It could also be that she idealized you a bit when you were just chatting on the 'net or the phone and that when you started hanging out in real life, you didn't match her idealized version. And that bit about how she used to say, "this is real love"? No, it sounds like puppy love. And chatting over the 'net or the phone is not the same thing because you miss out on all the non-verbal cues and day-to-day stuff that really defines a person.
Author DugoutDoug Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 I think im going to just not talk to her at all... she messages me on msn... and I realize that i cant even do that anymore with her... I guess its just time for me to move on and find someone else.
Author DugoutDoug Posted August 9, 2006 Author Posted August 9, 2006 well now shes on msn putting missin u =( and i miss talkin to you... I think shes playing a game with me... She enjoys playing with my feelings...
Yamaha Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I would just say Hi and ask her how she is doing. If she wants to get together let it be her idea.
Author DugoutDoug Posted August 10, 2006 Author Posted August 10, 2006 I got an email from her... i called u Yesterday u no u werent there im not gonna leve u alone..i already told u tat.. ill keep calling you You changed my way of seeing things..You gave me hope..something I didnt have anymore..I want you to know that... And I dont know what u think but that breaking up with you wasnt easy and that i had nothing for you... but i still think of you... i miss u alot..even if it doesnt show...i always appreciated you... but now... not talking to you made me realize that it meant something to me... there were things u understood that no one else did.... I used to cry myself to sleep some nights for so many reason but since i started talking to you u would make me so happy and i wouldnt think of those things that made me sad. and i dont wanna lose you... i dont want u to stop calling me... i might not of wanted a relationship but i still care for you and i cant just forget you and let u go... You decide what u want... its your choice sweeti
Author DugoutDoug Posted August 11, 2006 Author Posted August 11, 2006 anyone has advice for me?? and why cant she makeup her freakin mind
Winfield Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I got an email from her... i called u Yesterday u no u werent there im not gonna leve u alone..i already told u tat.. ill keep calling you You changed my way of seeing things..You gave me hope..something I didnt have anymore..I want you to know that... And I dont know what u think but that breaking up with you wasnt easy and that i had nothing for you... but i still think of you... i miss u alot..even if it doesnt show...i always appreciated you... but now... not talking to you made me realize that it meant something to me... there were things u understood that no one else did.... I used to cry myself to sleep some nights for so many reason but since i started talking to you u would make me so happy and i wouldnt think of those things that made me sad. and i dont wanna lose you... i dont want u to stop calling me... i might not of wanted a relationship but i still care for you and i cant just forget you and let u go... You decide what u want... its your choice sweeti All I can say is that Prince must be a big influence on her...she keeps referring to you as "u"! She doesn't want you as her boyfriend - she wants you as a friend...but only when it's convenient to her (not good)! Tell her she can't have it all (ie, friendship when only she wants it) and let her go. Her e-mail is trying to say all the right things, but I think you're able to see through her message... Let her go (yep, even as a friend) - if you don't, she'll continue to mess you around.
littlepiggy1 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 anyone has advice for me?? and why cant she makeup her freakin mind Like I said before, she sounds confused about her feelings. It's clear she doesn't want a relationship, but obviously the pain of breaking up is difficult for her and she wants to soften that by still retaining at least your friendship. You need to really think about what you want. If you want a relationship, then you already know that's not going to happen. The best thing you can do is to state that as clearly as possible and move on.
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