Guest Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I support his getting over the crazy, immature, and hurtful girl. Finding ways to insinuate himself into her life and to perpetuate his presence in her life will not let him get over her as quickly as possible. Four years is a long time, sure. He must hurt over it to be human. But hurt by yourself, with family, with buddies. This is not the first breakup in the history of the world, and his universe will not end. He will still wake up in the morning, brush his teeth, go to school, and play basketball. And slowly, the ex will fade from his memory and he will allow himself to open his heart to someone new. His ex has already told him the guy has a bigger penis. And he's STILL HOPING THAT THEY HAVEN'T HAD SEX? How much in denial can he be? She even ENJOYS flaunting her new relationship in front of him. The girl is maliciously immature. If it takes him going through a wicked breakup, so be it. I suppose eventually she'll ask him to watch her and the new boyfriend have sex and send him to the store to buy lubricant for them too.
Author BimmerNY Posted August 13, 2006 Author Posted August 13, 2006 Hey, how is everyone today? Fine I hope. Thankyou Dancehead you understand what I am going thru right now and how I feel. 4 years is a long time and she was my whole World one day and Someone else is her whole world by the next week. Not good, I cannot recover so quick and do NC and just forget about her like some of you can, I wish I was strong like many of you on here. But like Dancehead said, I am here because I reall need support right now. Anyway to make matters worst or weirder, I was online earlier around 1pm and she signs onto her instant messager and I haven't seen her on it for days. Within a minute of her signing on she says, "hey how are you"? I immediately got excited and had these warm bubbly feelings running through my body because last time we spoke she told me to get out of her life forever, now here she is opening the lines of communication first. So we chatted for about 2 minutes to catch up and she says for me to call her and I said sure, now? She says yes, her guy is on the computer working and won't mind. So I call her just incase she needs help or wants to get out of his house ( I know, I know but I really worry about her even when we were together. I get scared for her when she leaves the house.) Anyway we speak and I ask her if you think that you are moving too fast by already staying at his house only after going on a first date for a week. She quickly said NO and that it has been 3 weeks since they've known eachother. She then quickly changes the subject and we talk about other things. I had a wonderful conversation with her that lasted about half hour till she had to go shower. I heard him saying something to her in the background and she told me bye she had to go shower. I said bye call me sometime and she said yea, bye. The conversation was fun and casual and we never spoke of the break up at all and I am wondering if it's good for me right now? I didn't ask for it, it just happened and it made my day!!!
dancehead Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Well its good she is still on speaking terms with you after the stunt you pulled with ringing this guy up. Its good that you had a good conversation with her as friend. Now you have got a bit of respect back. But I know you are hoping she'll break up with him and come back to you. Fine be her friend and tolerate this for weeks, months, even years or forever. can you really do this? Can you be her friend and not be consumed by anger and jealousy privately or to her face? It may drive you mad or drive her away. You need to ask yourself can I do this? You might be better advised to make this your last contact with her even if she calls you. She has no right to expect you to speak to her now. Shes the one who has gone, let her wonder what you are doing. And go and do other things that don't involve her. I really mean this go out and meet some girls, go to a bar or something or go internet dating. You are now single, enjoy it. You may meet someone much better than her anyway. If you ever got back with her you would stand more chance in doing so if she didn''t see you pining and waiting. Later on you can tell her if you are speaking that you have met someone else, wouldn't that be cool? You have left the last converstation being good, so leave it like that. Don't speak to her for a while if ever.
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