georgejungle Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Another one of my random posts, but i'm hoping i can get some feedback on this, if you are guilty of it or if you are a victim of it... MY PROBLEM: I Can't Stop Looking At Other Girls. I would NEVER Cheat on my fiance. NEVER. However, whenever we are out, i can't stop looking at other girls. It's a problem. I try forcing myself to look the other direction if a cute girl walks by, but it's hard. I don't know why i can't just not look..I just have to look, it's becoming a compulsive thing. i can't not look if a nice pair of legs attatched to a cute girl, walk by. I do try not to look. But why do i even have to try, why do i need to look when i have a cute gal of my own, whom i love and find attractive..? No one would ever suspect this of me and it'd come out of left field for some people if they knew because i've always been a nice guy, a gentleman, respectful. My gal has noticed a few times. One time she caught me really good but i denied it, so she wouldn't be hurt. I've NEVER Been a player, NEVER cheated before, ALWAYS been a gentleman. I'm kind to my gal, sweet to her, i provide her with tons of love and care and support, but for some damn reason, i can't keep my eyes off other cute girls whenever we're out on the town, at the store, at the mall... any other guys like this?
littlepiggy1 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Dude, you're normal. Every single guy I know (married, engaged, g/f or single) including me will check out a cute girl if she walks by. It's practically an instinct, so don't worry about it. Now, it's only an issue if, you a) are constantly doing when you are with your current fiance (a quick glance is one thing, a prolonged stare is something else), or if you do it obsessively (i.e following said cute girl around the mall or something). But no, glancing at another cute girl if she's in vicinity is perfectly normal, healthy behavior for a hetereosexual male.
P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 It's all on how you look. Everybody checks out people especially if they are cute. If you are ogling to a point that your gf needs to get a towel to wipe off the drool then there is a problem. I had the problem with my bf for a little while. He would really gawk to where some of the caddy girls would smirk at me like ha ha your man is checking me out. I was pretty upset with that. I told him when he's out with his friends I didn't care but when I'm by his side he needed to be a little more conscious of how he was looking. I explained to him that the difference between glancing and gawking. I also told him that I never wanted him to feel he had to look at the floor just because we were walking together. Sometimes I will see a hot girl and I will point her out. Not to see his reaction but because I can appreciate beauty too. Some girls get real bent on this kind of stuff, when in reality girls check out people too.
differ Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I'm exactly the same as you brother. Alot of times I don't realize I'm doing it, I honestly think I'm just wired that way.
littleladyofgold Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 ive never once saw my man glancing at other women. but honestly, we all "look" at other people. what else is there to look at but people, whether man or woman. it doesn't mean you like them, just that you are viewing the world. ive never seen my man gawking or anything of the like, so i guess it can be controllable. i am not really interested in looking at other men either like that. i'll look at people in front of me, but i dont really take notice of "attractive" men etc because im just not interested. maybe you put too much of an emphasis on beauty.
Toni_no12002 Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Its normal to look at other people everyone does is.I used to get really jealous when my boyfriend looked at other women.Im not as bad anymore.If i see him staring a little too much ill stare at another guy he soon gets the message. I think women are just better at hiding the fact there looking where men tend to make it a little too obvious lol
Author georgejungle Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 I'm exactly the same as you brother. Alot of times I don't realize I'm doing it, I honestly think I'm just wired that way. EXACTLY, Half the time i just do it without thinking...It's like i don't even notice that i'm doing it. Oh well, thanks for the comments. I'm going to try and keep it the glancing down when i'm out with my gal. I want to be respectful.
a4a Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 ive never once saw my man glancing at other women. but honestly, we all "look" at other people. what else is there to look at but people, whether man or woman. it doesn't mean you like them, just that you are viewing the world. ive never seen my man gawking or anything of the like, so i guess it can be controllable. i am not really interested in looking at other men either like that. i'll look at people in front of me, but i dont really take notice of "attractive" men etc because im just not interested. maybe you put too much of an emphasis on beauty. I could just put Ditto on this post or claim it as my own. Perhaps people that look so much are still looking for a new partner? (this is not an accusation but a question)
Toni_no12002 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I could just put Ditto on this post or claim it as my own. Perhaps people that look so much are still looking for a new partner? (this is not an accusation but a question) Could be ! makes sense.Occasional looking is ok but if your looking all the time it could that your still on the look out???
mscmkr Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 "the second a man stops looking is the minute after he started touching" this is a fact. when hes cheating hes going to feel guilty about it. and of course hes going to stop looking at other women so you wont think hes cheating. men looking at women is normal. women looking at men is normal. if your drooling on the floor and following them around just for a better shot then thats a bit much. but a head turn when a hotty goes by is fine. relax man. make sure your lady knows you love her AND ONLY HER and you will be fine. looking is healthy.
Toni_no12002 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 ye but just dont make it obvious your craning your neck to look at another women or you just might get a slap
Guest Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 If your with your gf i dont think you should be craning your neck to look at anyone.I suppose you can't help it if a good looking girl crosses your path but no way should you atempt to turn your head to get a good look!Its disrespectful! As you say if a hotty is there.I say if shes so hot and you want to have a good luck why dont you leave me and go with her if shes that gorgeous! Men say they dont want to upset there gf by it?Simple dont do it!
littleladyofgold Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I could just put Ditto on this post or claim it as my own. Perhaps people that look so much are still looking for a new partner? (this is not an accusation but a question) I agree. Never even since the beginning of our love affair, did we gawk at other people. Probably because we have always been so much in love and said "this is the one". Perhaps the people looking are not really sure of their relationships anyways and in their subconscious really are looking. Otherwise, I really don't see the point in being that interested in other people to be giving gawking expressions etc. Very odd. Oh, I wanted to add that I know a very close relative who is in the original poster's shoes. This man used to do the same to her. Used to go out with her and then sit and stare at other women, even their asses etc. He promised to marry my relative etc, but was a con man. I'm not going to get into it but he was a real conman/liar/user. I wouldn't trust men who are so interested if the grass is greener on the other side. And I think subconsciously these people who stare and gawk at other people are.
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