cuda Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I am married for 11 years, 3rd time. First one ended in divorce, the 2nd one died, and now with this one, I am questioning my feelings for my husband. Our sex life is all but nil. There is really no intamcy whatsoever. We each spend our free time in separate rooms. So I spend most of my time on the computer, probably too much. Then I met another man on line, then the phone conversations began. For 3 weeks I can't get him off my mind. We have shared so much in 3 weeks, it's surreal. We have started making plans to be together and went as far as saying those 3 little words, " I love you". So last Friday I went out and drank too much, sent him a "Dear John" email. Stupid I know. Needless to say he blasted me back, (which I deserved) but I want to reconcile with him. What do I do, I have apologized, but didn't quite come out and tell him I wanted him back. I told him in my last email to him, I wouldn't bother him again, but now all I do is think about him. What do I do? What can I do to re-connect with him? I want to reconcile with him, I need to see if he was the one. So much bad has happened in my life that when something good happens, I am always questioning it. Please will someone advise me on how to get him to at least talk to me? Cuda
whichwayisup Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I think you need to leave your husband. Don't "see" how it goes with the online guy - and then if it doesn't work out, you come back to your husband. That's just selfish! Plus, you DO NOT KNOW that guy well enough. Online or even on the phone, it's not the same as face to face. Do you love your husband? Can you two capture the romance and passion again? Find out what needs aren't being met, go to counselling and give it your best to see if it's fixable? I think this man you've met online has stirred up feelings in you that you've not felt in a long time...But, it's all based on fantasy. It's not "real" because you don't know him and he doesn't really know you. Focus on your husband, and if you can't, get a divorce, THEN go pursue this online man.
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