engravefeelthevoid Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Hi guys..I heared from some people and read on some websites a method called screening a girl to get her attention..it's when you test her to see if she accepts you or not and eventually make her chase you and want to get your attention..I was wondering if I could find more information about this..ways to do it..tips....any ideas ?
Pink Amulet Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Only upon joining LS have I realised how some people view dating. It isn't a game of monopoly people! I just refuse to believe there is a strategy, or course of manipulation to win the long term affection of another human being. Not a sane one anyway!
stoopid_guy Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 The only sure way is with Jedi mind control, but if you don't have the time or patience for years of training, a pair of Yoda ears will definately get her attention. (Spend the money on some good ones, if she suspect they're fake, forget it!) And in all seriousness, what PA said. And I'll add that there's no magic formula for getting their short-term affection either. Be yourself. If she's interested; great. If she's not, that's fine too because somebody else will be.
Road Rage Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Go to the Don Juan disscussion forum and ask them. If they don`t know it can`t be found. All is fair in love and war.
Walk Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Try the honest approach. I've heard that one works. Otherwise, all games end and reality has to be faced at some point. You two will either have enough interest or not. So why don't you just try to put your best foot forward without lying or omitting important facts. If she likes you, then she'll continue wanting to talk to you. If she doesn't, then she won't. I kept pursuing my bf because he was a great guy... but no games. If I called him, he picked up the phone. If he wasn't available at the time, then he called me back either that evening, or the next day. If he wasn't free the night I wanted to go out, then he suggested a better day. She'll either like you, or she won't. No amount of games will make it different in the long run.
superconductor Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Walk is right on. If you have to play little childish games to get someone's attention, then they're easily manipulated and probably not worth having anyways.
Outcast Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Girls are human beings. Other people like you. They are not prey that you have to dress in camouflage and hide in the bushes and pretend to be a turkey to get. You don't need special whistles or calls or to design a trap. If you treat them as some sort of wierd space creature that needs 'tricks' and 'strategies' to get, then I promise you'll get none.
alphamale Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 a method called screening a girl that's usually what happens when i pop a porn dvd into the player
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 it's when you test her to see if she accepts you or not and eventually make her chase you and want to get your attention..I was wondering if I could find more information about this..ways to do it..tips....any ideas ? Dude, there are so many "systems" out there, just go to any men's website, i.e. askmen. However almost all of these systems are designed for one thing, to increase the bank account balance of the author.
alphamale Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 However almost all of these systems are designed for one thing, to increase the bank account balance of the author. Agreed SCC72....hmm that give me idea! Maybe I will publish Alphamale's Guide To Getting Chicks
stoopid_guy Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 What I find funny is that these guys actually think they can learn more about women by talking to other "men" than they can by talking to women. For guys looking for a "system:" Stop trying to figure women out. They're more complicated than you, it ain't gonna happen! Just think of them as "magic." Show them interest. Show them respect. Show them friendship. Make them smile.
Road Rage Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 What you call screening appears to be in the catagory of persuasion techniques. A method to get a girls attention and to create interest in you. There are a lot of persuasion techniques and to me when a woman wears jewelery and perfume it is somewhat the same thing. So I think the method you are seeking is a valid form of approach in the world of dating. To me, I applaud anything that works. That is the bottom line. Many techniques are much easier said than done and there is a world of marketing out there trying to sell something with big promises attached. But there is a lot of free info too. Go forth and seek the woman of your choice:)
Outcast Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Creating interest is pointless if there's no goods behind the marketing. First be sure you're the kind of guy that's fun to be around. Be sure you're a decent guy. And before you know it, you'll find people interested in you.
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 this technique isn't intended to cover up weaknesses and mis-guide the girl to get an unfair fake chance with her for a relationship or anything like that..no no...it's actually to make your bright side appear...how many times have you seen a girl you liked outside..and she seems perfect and fair for you..but you couldn't act because you're reluctant or afraid??? 90% of the time is the case..so this and any similar approach is a way to actually do something and avoid any regrets many guys just sit there and don't do a thing hoping for a girl to show up magically in the future and love them..those people often end up alone..we'' I'm not going to be one of those..neither will I allow my fellow males......Who can deny the fact that making a back up plan is worste than just building a relationship from scratch..and discovering the trick from zero point? "Knowledge is Power"
destination_unknown Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 For guys looking for a "system:" Stop trying to figure women out. They're more complicated than you, it ain't gonna happen! Just think of them as "magic." Show them interest. Show them respect. Show them friendship. Make them smile. Aaaawwww! Thats sweet - wish more guys knew that! I only know two who actually realise this gem and of course they are taken!!
superconductor Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 ...Stop trying to figure women out. They're more complicated than you, it ain't gonna happen! Just think of them as "magic." Show them interest. Show them respect. Show them friendship. Make them smile... ... and get slammed into the friend zone quicker than a horse leaves the gate. If a man wants to attract the opposite sex, he'll have to step out of his comfort zone a little. Being "Mr Nice Guy," unfortunately, doesn't win a lot of points. I wish it were otherwise, but it's just not reality. Consider the dozens - maybe hundreds - of posts on this and other similar forums (fora?) about how "bad boys" attract all the eligible women, while the decent fellows are stuck at home watching bad movies. Sure, the women eventually realize that the attraction to bad boys leads to nothing but heartbreak, but then they complain that there are no good men around and become skittish about relationships because they've been burned. And the world just keeps on turnin...
stoopid_guy Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 ... and get slammed into the friend zone quicker than a horse leaves the gate. If a man wants to attract the opposite sex, he'll have to step out of his comfort zone a little. Being "Mr Nice Guy," unfortunately, doesn't win a lot of points. I wish it were otherwise, but it's just not reality. It's true in some cases. Some women want "bad boys," but there are plenty who appreciate someone who respects them and wants to make them smile. (Note: I'm not saying women like "wimps," strength and self-confidence are important too.)
gfto Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 What I find funny is that these guys actually think they can learn more about women by talking to other "men" than they can by talking to women. Actually, my dating life improved dramatically when I started observing and listening to men who are successful with women, instead of listening to female acquaintances who always tell you, "oh, you just haven't found a woman yet who appreciates a nice guy like you."
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 People who study social behaviour and family life often end up with some conclusions regarding the basis for a successful relationship or marrige..it is often a good idea to combine between a pure decent love and care from the heart ..and some "Bad Boy" attitude...no modern person hasn't experienced orgasm or sexual attraction...when one of the partners is in need for that and his co-partner is unable to satisfy it..given he is bounded by him..our human/animal nature would start to feel negative about the incidence...and look at the person as a needed drug that cannot be swallowed due to it's bitterness...and the relationship won't succeed both spiritual love and physical needs are essential for success..and that's wht there are males and females..not just one category..so I believe it is safe to assume that being a "bad boy" and a "Mr. nice guy" are both good aspects....
lindya Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 What I find funny is that these guys actually think they can learn more about women by talking to other "men" than they can by talking to women. The scene: A couple of guys are huddled together in a sweaty nightclub - plotting and scheming as they glance furtively at the dance floor. "Time to implement strategy, dude." "Awesome! Did you take the Strauss book out with you?" "Screw Strauss. I've got my own plan. Watch carefully as I walk up to that hot chick over there, casually tell her how ugly she is, then let her know that if she works hard enough for my validation I might just let her blow me later on." "I can't get over how great you are, man! Show me the master in action!" (5 minutes later) "Dude, you weren't to know that she was the head bouncer's sister. Let's go home and put a pack of frozen peas on that eye. " "Okay. Then I'll insult you - and you'll appease me by giving me a little hot ass action." "Man, I can't believe I'm going to treated like a bro-ho by the man who screwed Strauss. This is the best!'"
stoopid_guy Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 Lindya reminds us of one more problem with "systems:" The most attractive and sexiest qualities a lady can have are imagination, a sense of humor, and intelligence. A lady with those qualities is going to immediately see right through any system or pick-up line. I believe it is safe to assume that being a "bad boy" and a "Mr. nice guy" are both good aspects.... And those two are both measured in degrees, and aren't mutually exclusive.
monkey00 Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 any and all form of relationships require some form of manipulation for it to succeed. The only one i can think of that may not exist is where unconditional love exists such as family. As for 'screening' a girl i assume you're referring to sh*t tests. if you guys are going to do it back and forth for the sake of it, then the relationship wont go anywhere..it has to stop at some point, and who knows maybe pick up somewhere later on with the need for drama to keep the relationship interesting.
arniebuteft Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 Actually, my dating life improved dramatically when I started observing and listening to men who are successful with women, instead of listening to female acquaintances who always tell you, "oh, you just haven't found a woman yet who appreciates a nice guy like you." I can agree with this. Say I'm looking to get a job with Google, or some other high-profile company. Am I going to ask Google what they're looking for in a candidate, and get some generic, non-committal "we want smart, hard-working people" answer? Or am I going to ask the three guys who just got hired by Google last month, and find out exactly what worked for them? Ask one woman what she wants in a man, and you'll get an answer that may work reasonably well for HER. Ask five men who've dated a few women apiece recently, and you'll get some broad-based strategies and plans for what the 'average' woman is looking for. Follow success. Yeah, a bunch of losers in a bar, plotting how to nail the hot chick at the bar... that's a recipe for disaster. But, a bunch of well-liked men who have success in attracting and keeping girlfriends, I'll listen all day to what they have to say. Hmmm... is that making dating sound too much like a business transaction? Is that too far off the mark?
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