ex is now my friend, but still .

[jbizzle]

hello all maybe y'all can give me a lil advice..well currently im 19. i went out with this girl for almost a yr and basically our relationship got hard bc we ended up going to different colleges. Shes only an hr away from where i live and where she lives (childhood home). basically we broke up bc it got increasingly harder to trust her and im sure she felt lonely bc i couldnt always b there. so she started hanging out w/ this 1 particular guy she met in 1 of her classes. so i started to get suspicious and started looking at her emails n stuff (i kno i kno im not very proud of the fact i did that and i kno its wrong) but i found an email that wasnt an email u send to "just a friend" but yet we were still together at the time. i confronted her about it and she told me that wat she wrote sounded bad,but wasnt intended.

so a few months later we break up and she says she cares a lot about me and doesnt wanna hurt me n all that stuff. but a week later i find out she sends "naughty" pics to her so called guy friend. when i say naughty i mean a few naked pics. that was about 2 or so months ago. now currently they r "seeing" each other but not actually going out. but they go to the same school n all that crap and hangout like bf/gf.

thats a lil background on everything. recently i hooked up with an old childhood friend of mine and we started hanging out a lot. My ex all of a sudden got jealous i guess and calls me crying and we talked about it bc she found out. even tho we arent going out and she has done a lot that has hurt me we still talk a lot online and sometimes on the phone. and occassionally hang out. my question for all of you is, wat do u think of her behavior?

I dont kno whether or not she still has feelings for me..in my opinion she might bc a lot of things she says u wouldnt say if you werent interested in my opinion and we have the same best friends so they tell me a lot. Ive tried the silent treatment for a few days and she has texted me asking if i was trying to avoid her. i dont wanna totally cut her off bc i still do have some feelings for her.

any advice on how i should go about treating this situation would b great. a lot of people would pro just say let her go bc of the fact she's w/ someone who goes to her college..i cant compete w/ that unless im there too, which im actually trying to do bc its a good school and i play baseball. im actually prob going to hangout w/ her this week sometime..we've been broken up for maybe 6 months or so.

thanks for your help

[xFallingAwayFromYoux]

Well I'd say stick to friends untill she says something about her feelings for you and you know shes genuine, because she might have feelings for you still and she might not, she might just be a bit confused or hung up on you still, its fairly hard to get over someone you liked so much after a long relationship in such a short time. Stick to friends for now and you never know, it might go the way you want it to good luck. I've just recently got back with my ex and everythings fine I waited two years before I got back with him though, because I didn't really have feelings for him untill a couple of weeks ago! Good luck anyway hope it all works out well for you :)

[norajane]

I think she got jealous thinking that you were seeing someone else. She has no right to, of course, since SHE is seeing someone else.

 

If I were you, stick to friends with her. Nothing has actually changed in your situation - she's still seeing the other guy, and she's still an hour away in school, and she hasn't said anything about actually wanting to date you again.

 

Why would you give up a potential relationship with your childhood friend for a girl who broke up with you and is seeing someone else? Why put up with someone who strings you along just because her ego is a little bruised? Did she think you'd wait around pining for her forever while she goes out with whoever she wants to? Why wait like a puppy dog for her to pull your leash again?