mlchris2 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 my wife and I are comming up on our 1 year seperation-anniversary. the first 2 months of the seperation were horrible.... the last 6 months have been great. we seem to get along. a few days ago, my wife approached me and said that she is going to finallize the divorce and just get it over with. After several hours of talking, she realized that throughout the 1 year seperation she was being unfair and selfish by keeping me around when she needed me and throwing me out when she was done. She told me she didnt know who she was anymore and wanted to go talk to a counselor by herself. To make a long story short, she realized she needed to take responsibility for what she decided 1 year ago, find herself (cause she doesnt know who she is anymore) and feels that cutting the marriage ties between us is fair to me. I asked if I could help her in anyway to find out whats happening and she told me she has to do this herself. I've done the soul searching and counseling for myself during our 12 month seperation and have done alot of thinking. I've lived and done things for me, things I havent done or able to do while married. Before I get to my question, I will continue by saying; I have a deep love for my wife, the love that you have trouble explaining to people, unless they have the same love for someone else... But at the same time, I am the type of person that needs to be loved by someone (you know the love I am talking about). I need that attachment with someone... thats just my nature. I dont know how I've made it a year without it. maybe, cause I've had that type of things for 7 years. now to my ?. I feel in my heart that I need to wait for my wife to battle through this, but I have these thoughts that if I wait I am only selling my self short. I would love your opinions... I am not looking for an answer her, just hoping to get a non-biased opinion. thanks markc
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