P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Do you ever find yourself thinking when talking to friends, family or here about relationship problems that you don't really practice what you preach. My sister-law is having some real issues with my bro. I love them both very much and a part of me feels and wants to tell her if I was in the same situation I would leave. At the same time I am kind of in the same situation and find that I have problems just leaving. It seems easier to tell someone else they should just move on... Though on one post here. The one with the cell phone in the bathroom I think if I was the person with the phone I would leave no problem. The day I can't sit on the john and take a crap in peace without being accused of cheating is the day I walk out the door with no regrets
Outcast Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Inertia is seductive. It's a lot of work to extricate yourself from a rotten relationship. That's why some people just stay and stay and stay. And complain and complain and complain.
Sally00 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I don't think you should really tell her what to do. This is a marriage... and you don't want to be the reason/part of the reason why the marriage ended. You don't want all that weight on you.... You being the one to tell her to leave. I have 2 friends who I accidentally hooked up and they tell me all the things that make them unhappy about each other (& honestly, I don't know why they are still together..). And when they talk to me, I don't say much... I'm neutral. I am in no position to tell them to break up with each other because they are unhappy. I'm just there for them. Just like you, I don't think you're in a position to tell her what to do. I think you should let her decide what to do... atleast she won't have YOU to blame if she regrets it... Good luck!
Author P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 I have never told her that. I just listen and think if I was in the same situation I would leave.
Sally00 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I have never told her that. I just listen and think if I was in the same situation I would leave. Oh ok. That's good. It's nice that you're someone she can talk to. Someone there for her.
Author P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 Inertia is seductive. It's a lot of work to extricate yourself from a rotten relationship. That's why some people just stay and stay and stay. And complain and complain and complain. It's also work to stay and maintain a relationship. Things may not be perfect for us but at least we try.
blind_otter Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 there's an old saying "It's a lot easier to give advice than it is to take it". This wouldn't be an "old saying" if it weren't perenially true.
ilmw Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 My marriage has fallen apart... I feel I have some insight now more than I ever had before on what works and does not... When I see friends, acting or speaking with their SO's in a certain way.. or they tell me things about (they are pissed at their SO for this or that.. or are not happy etc... I tell them... work on it.. it pisses you off now.. but how will you feel tommorow.. things like that... I can't stand how some of them treat their wives... I guess I am just overly sensitive about these things these days. I wish before, I had someone to set me straight .. ilmw
Author P1xie Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 My marriage has fallen apart... I feel I have some insight now more than I ever had before on what works and does not... When I see friends, acting or speaking with their SO's in a certain way.. or they tell me things about (they are pissed at their SO for this or that.. or are not happy etc... I tell them... work on it.. it pisses you off now.. but how will you feel tommorow.. things like that... I can't stand how some of them treat their wives... I guess I am just overly sensitive about these things these days. I wish before, I had someone to set me straight .. ilmw Are you guys working on it too? How long have you been married?
ilmw Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I am.. she is not.... seperating at the end of August.. married 2 yrs.. together 8.yrs
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