DawnMN73 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Hello All Ok i just went on medication for Severe PMS or PMDD. Its for PMS symptoms. I need advice please............ I have been dating my new man for almost 6 months now. He told me a few months ago about one of his ex girlfriends that was on paxil & addicted to Ambien cause she had major depression. He referres to her as a wacko. I was just diagnosed with severe pms or PMDD & my doctor put me on the lowest dose of Paxil. He said that it helps for severe pms. It helps balance out my hormones at the time of menstration. I told him that i don't like the fact that i have to go on paxil, he said to me, "u have pms symptoms, not major depression or anything" I was just wondering. I'm a little nervous, stupid i know but....... How do i tell my new man that i have to take paxil for my severe pms? when he thinks his ex was a wacko cause she had to take it even though mine is for PMS symptoms & not depression? I know its stupid but please advise! thanks
johan Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 It's not the medication that made her a wacko. It's what she was. He's been with you for six months and you haven't gotten the wacko designation, so I don't see that changing. Hopefully he's understanding enough to see it that way. Some people are against pharmaceutical mood control no matter what. This is a situation where you have to be brave and honest. There's a small chance he won't take it well, based on what I know of people in general. Good luck.
magichands Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I agree with what johan has said. He's the man. He told me a few months ago about one of his ex girlfriends that was on paxil & addicted to Ambien cause she had major depression. He referres to her as a wacko. Obviously that relationship ended on good terms. Maybe he was jealous of her moonwalk?? Still - addiction is no laughing matter. I told him that i don't like the fact that i have to go on paxil, he said to me, "u have pms symptoms, not major depression or anything" I assume that you decided for yourself that you needed some help to cope, right? (And I'm sure that things would improve if you knew that your boyfriend was on your side... but I think it's great that you are seeking help.) I'm a little nervous, stupid i know but....... One would hope to be accepted in a relationship... for what you are - a human being with flaws. We all have them. (Some more than others, perhaps.) My point being that feelings should never be dismissed as stupid. You were obviously concerned enough about the impact of your moodiness - or whatever the symptoms - to go to the doctor for help, so I would hope that your boyfriend understands that you're trying to do what's best. Quite frankly, I would expect nothing less than his understanding - or else be questioning why I'm in this relationship. But that's just me. Please try to relax (I realise you are feeling stress, but try), and give him every chance to trust you. I'm sure he does.
Author DawnMN73 Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 Hello Thanks for you replies. I really appreciate it. Yes, i went to the doctor for help with my pms symptoms, they get REALLY bad the week before my period. Makes me feel like i am going crazy at times! haha Yes u r right, my boyfriend should be understanding! Everyone has their flaws. I'm not perfect. & for heavens sake, its only PMS symptoms. Thanks all! Anyone else have any advice?
superconductor Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Best you can do in this situation is be clear and upfront with him, and during the bad week, just stay away from him. And when you say "it's only PMS symptoms," that's more than a bit disingenuous. If they're causing you so much grief that you need medication to help, then it's more serious than just being a little crabby. IMO, symptoms of PMS are often used by some women as an excuse to treat their SO like dirt and get away with it. While I don't think that's the case here, I do think that you need to get a handle on it. It's not your bf's fault that you feel like you're going crazy at times, and if you bark at him and are just plain nasty & cruel to him, he's got every right to tell you to just siddown & shuddup.
Guest Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I would start with..... 'Honey, you know how I have very bad pms and it's been causing me trouble... well I went to the doctor and he's put me on xxx whatever it's called. Now I know that your ex use to take these and you were worried about her depression etc. But I thought it best you knew. The Doctor said that they are sometimes used to treat depression but also for PMS. I'm just wondering how you feel about this....?' If he says something like 'oh no not another wacko' then you'll know where you stand... But a normal nice boyfriend would say stuff like 'that's really good, I'm glad that you went to the doctor about it, I hope that help you because I know you suffer a lot... etc etc etc' Don't be nervous, if he wants to be with you he'll be happy that you're healthy and well and doing something about an issue that is causing you pain and stress.
Author DawnMN73 Posted August 9, 2006 Author Posted August 9, 2006 YEs guest u r right! thanks Super, i don't bitch at my man, actually we never had a fight yet! I just feel sad inside & won't take it out on anyone.
Guest Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 Hey DawnMN73 how did it go? Did you tell him? Happy to help - hope you got the 'I'm glad you went to the Doctor response'!
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