destination_unknown Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 I really need some hope for finding someone so, tell me how did you meet some of the loves of your life? Did they have flaws you didn't care about? Had you given up on finding someone? Was it someone you never expected or in circumstances you never expected?
Confuggled_one Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 well, i met my girl at skoo. it was rather unexpected, and she did have many flaws. i learned to accept them, but she never learned how to accept mine. that's it. love is all apart of destiny and fate. be patient becuse sometimes when you least expect it you find your lover then and there
RecordProducer Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 This question has already been asked on LS. I met hubby on a dating site. We dated online for a year and a half and he came to visit me 5 times before we got married 8 months ago. What's a skoo? School?
P1xie Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 Met mine at a gym I use to work at part time. My only doubt was I thought that he was a little obsessed with his body. When we started talking I found out that he hadn't dated anyone in over three years, so I knew he wasn't a man whore. I too had not been with any one in over three years. I wasn't really looking. Honestly I don't have problems meeting people. I tend to be very picky now because of past relationships. He fit mainly because I knew since he hadn't been with anyone in those years he would understand why I hadn't. I have never been the type to jump from one guy to another. I don't think some people would of understood my three year break from guys. He did because he took the same break from women.
Confuggled_one Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 This question has already been asked on LS. I met hubby on a dating site. We dated online for a year and a half and he came to visit me 5 times before we got married 8 months ago. What's a skoo? School? lol ya sorry skoo means school
Brittjean06 Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 This question has already been asked? Yes by a different person though.. I ment well my now ex in sckoo hahaaha But I love the post that says you never know when they are going to show up. Because you really don't. Great to think about:)
Brittjean06 Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 I wasn't really looking. Honestly I don't have problems meeting people. I quote] They come when you least expect it, and usually when your not looking I can see myself being single for cuple of years in between each break up. I normally never have my mind set on meeting anyone new except for friends during the healing process. Who knows though
lovestruck234 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 It is true that they come along when you least expect it.... My present bf and I had been friends for about 5 - 6 yrs prior. We sort of go closer and closer before we finally got together. We were really good mates for about 3 years before hand and did EVERYTHING together. Ah, I miss those days sometimes.... Anyway, I don't know, it sort of just happened out of the blue. I don't think either of us really understood completely how we felt about each other. One day we were in the car and we kissed. And kept kissing and kissing. Then about a month after heavy make-out sessions we finally came to the conclusion that we did indeed fancy each other!! Lol And yeah, 7 months down the track and we're still going strong! I don't see a single flaw in him now. I saw them when we were just mates, but they didn't bother me in the least. I'm not the type of person to get wound up in all that material crap, and if someone has a flaw, I accept it. But yeah, I do truly believe he is *drum roll* (nervous) "The One". I know I'm only young BUT I feel and see this relationship surviving through a hell of a lot, and it already has so far. For all the down times I have about him, are times when you stop and realise that you love them so much it hurts....so I don't grieve over thinking about failure, I grieve over how much I love him... Ok, that last paragraph didn't make sense AT ALL. Lol, ok, I'm going to go now....
Blackfrost Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I was at one of my favorite restaurants with a business associate, she was sitting a couple tables over from me with one of her girl friends - and I couldn't stop staring at her - she was stunning. Some how I got the nerve to go over and speak to her: and the australian accent came out........... I was floored 6 months later we were married.
Pyro Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I really need some hope for finding someone so, tell me how did you meet some of the loves of your life? Did they have flaws you didn't care about? Had you given up on finding someone? Was it someone you never expected or in circumstances you never expected? I met mine through friends, through school, and at a bar. Each one was unexpected, which is how it usually works.
Sally00 Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I met my love through friends. And we have been in the same circle of friends for over a year before we started going out. We've been together for 6 months now. We love each other so much. He's had flaws that I was very hesitant about. He would drink every now and then, he had sex with his ex (they were together for 2 1/2 years..... I'm a virgin waiting till marriage to have sex and was afraid he'd want sex if we were together), and he's quite a flirt. But before we were official, I talked to him about those things... about how I felt. He said he wouldn't drink (he's not even legal.. I wouldn't mind an occasional drink WHEN he's legal). He said he would NEVER force anything upon me and would not mind waiting till marriage for sex. And he said he will stop his flirting ways (he'll just be his very friendly self to the girly-friends in our circle of friends... he just hugs a lot ). He totally respects me. He's liked me ever since before he even met me. He saw a picture of me. Now that we're together, he wouldn't do anything to ruin what we have. I've always liked him as a friend until he asked to hang out with me on a Friday night... I swear, it was as if a switch was just turned on JUST LIKE THAT. I had feelings for him right then and there. It scared me how something like that just happened so fast and unexpectedly. He will never do anything to hurt me. I feel such a sense of comfort and security when I'm with him (something I have never felt). I have always been scared of getting hurt, until him. He was the one who always told me he would hurt any guy who hurt me. Now we're in love. They come when you least expect it, and usually when your not looking I can see myself being single for cuple of years in between each break up. I normally never have my mind set on meeting anyone new except for friends during the healing process. Who knows though I totally agree. WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT. I've never looked for love because I knew that I was just going to get hurt again and there would be more drama in my life than I wanted. Just don't look. It'll come. Who knew that I'd end up with one of my best friends. He was under my nose the entire time...
RedneckRomeo Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 nearly Everyone has been saying that you find love when you least expect it, and when you're not looking. You know something? They're TOTALLY RIGHT!! I had this monster crush on this one girl, and tried everything to get her to go out with me to no avail. I had finally given up on her, and actually given up on trying to find anyone at that time. I decided that if it was meant to happen, love would find me. That VERY SAME DAY, things started happening (minor stuff - hanging out, etc) with a different girl who I had met but never really knew. A few days later, she grabbed me for a slow dance, and I invited her to come with me to this place where I was going and she had thought about going to. We talked the whole way, got along great, and from then on, I've been talking to her every day and doing so much with her. Now it may not be love yet - but it was exactly the kind of relationship I was needing in my life at that exact point in time, and it only happened because I just gave up on trying to make it happen and decided to just let it happen the way that it was going to anyway. Technically I never even had to ask her out for a first date - because All I did was offer to give her a ride to save gas for her, and it just went from there. Now the ice is totally melted and its so easy to talk to her and do things with her. Bottom line - just let Life happen. If it's meant to be, it will happen no matter what you do.
Guest Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I find that it happens for me when I'm not looking, like others have said, and also when I'm too focused on my life and finding happiness for myself to even be looking at the time. Then when you're getting pretty happy with yourself, that shines through and people notice. The only problems is, at least for me, that usually the love ends and then I'm back to not being happy again and the whole thing starts over...sigh...I don't think I'll ever find true love.
Brittjean06 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 Guest- I feel the same way well not about finding the love when your not looking because that has yet to happend to me. But it will end any way and your just drowned in your self pity and blah blah. But Be lucky that you can love again or find someone else again though So I wonder why this happens when you least expect it. Maybe because than you are ready. Life works im mysterious ways:)
HokeyReligions Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I was working for one of those testing places - you used to see them in the malls with clipboards asking people to take a survey - some of them pay, most don't. I interviewed my husband about answering machines (very new to the marketplace - I think they were going for around $400 at the time, were huge & used standard cassett tapes, and most people didn't have one). He asked me out for coffee after work and we sat in a Denny's and talked until they closed the place. We were married two years later. I don't know what it was about him - that mysterious 'chemistry' we hear talk about! I was sharing an apartmet with my mom at the time and when I got home that night she asked me how my date was and I calmly told her that if I ever got married he would be the one. That was over 20 years ago.
Brittjean06 Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 See I am looking but If I want this work do I have to pretend not to look? haha subcounsiously I would be too. haha can't cheat that
Rikka Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I am dismayed to admit that I met my guy in a bar. I was out with some girlfriends (we were having a thrift-shop dress up night... I was dressed like a "rockstar"). One of his friends happened to know one of the people I was there with, eventually she came over and told me that "my friend thinks you're cute, you should go over there and talk to him". I told her to tell him that I don't bite. And the rest is history! Flaws? Hell yes. He is a heavy drinker (he worked in the bar industry for 8 years). He smokes. He is pretty much the complete opposite of everything I ever "looked" for. And that is what is so awesome. We amuse people when we go out. He is huge, I am tiny. I am dressed up in business suits or skirts. He goes out in his "thug/punk" gear. It is great!
starlet Posted August 9, 2006 Posted August 9, 2006 I always meet men in the most random ways. I met my most serious boyfriend, the one I almost married, really, in line at an ATM machine. I met my current boyfriend at at a speed dating event (seriously) that I did on a dare for twenty bucks. So, yeah, I guess I come down on the it happens when you aren't looking side, too.
Guest Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I really need some hope for finding someone so, tell me how did you meet some of the loves of your life? Did they have flaws you didn't care about? Had you given up on finding someone? Was it someone you never expected or in circumstances you never expected? Hi. I met my current bf who i believe to b the love of my life at a student party last year. i had just moved to another part of the country for uni and it was a week in2 it. i had told my bf from home that we should break up coz it wud b silly doin the distance thing, then i rang back when homesick n told him to get back with me so he was really happy. then the next night when i was drunk i kissed someone else and almost had sex with them. after that i rang my bf from home telling him i wasnt in2 him enuf to do the distance thing n he found out about the kiss n i ended it to a heartbroken lad. afta the upsetting convo wi him i was upset n hated myself 4 hurting him n thought i dnt want a rel eva again so i went out n got drunk wi friends but they came back early n i found a party in my block o flats n then met a girl who said this party's crap come to mine n we'll av a party so i went to hers at hers i met my future love of my life but he was afta sum1 else but had jz found out she'd been leadin him on we both got on gr8 n had a laf n i got v drunk n 4wad n on the way to my flat 2 borrow booze i pinned him against the wall saying "come here sexy" n snogged his face off. we snogged in secret several more times then went back to the party. i cant remem much else coz we were drinking lotsa straight vodka n all sortsa other alcohol as chasers n we also had a few goes at some poppers (a legal drug used by gay men to relax their bum muscles - little did i know). next thing i remem is bein sick in his lu n him looking after me n makin sure im ok, then i woke up next day to him sayin r u ok (to my embarrassment i had pooed all ova his bed - good job he wasnt in it too). after this night i had the worst hangova n he came to check up on me several times to c if i was alright despite not knowing my name. we carried on seeing each other as friends copz neither of us wanted a relationship after past relationships going wrong. as time went on we were getting on very well and were having sex and stuff but kept it to a casual thing. eventually we couldnt help ourselves and had to get together. and now here we r almost a year later completely in love. what a terrible story for the best man if we ever get married, lol!
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