Guest Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 I met her in April through an online ad, and everything was wonderful. We spent two weeks together, dated, became more intimate, made love. I returned in June, again everything was smashing. For her work she needed to go to Italy; I was in France, she was able to route her trip through Brussels to see me each way. I realized I was falling in love with her, I thought she was the woman of my dreams. Then one morning I got up early and went to the computer to check my email. I clicked on the hotmail link from the address bar, and her email opened up! OK, I snooped; here's the deal: she had met a man in January; they corresponded for some weeks, then arranged a rendezvous in Egypt. He is American; after that trip, he started processing a marriage visa for her. He writes often and she to him, apparently intending to marry. We met one day after she returned from Egypt! The problem is, I still love her. She has never seen this guy again; from what I can tell, she has only been with me. Perhaps she is still making up her mind, perhaps she is using me as one last fling. Any advice?
Outcast Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 It is very common to think you're in love when you don't know someone very well (and trust me on this: a few weeks in person and some online and phone time is not sufficient to know someone well). However, I am fairly sure that had you gotten to know her really well, you would have realized that the kind of person who would look for a visa provider to marry just might not be the best partner for you. Forget her and don't allow yourself to believe you're 'in love' until you've known someone in person a good long while.
RecordProducer Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 Only she knows the answers, but I can tell you one thing. I dated two guys that I met online. I married one of them, but I never corresponded with two people at the same time. If I liked someone, I would be only friendly with others. And when I met each of them in person, I stopped communicating with other people and was concentrated only on the guy I was with. I've never dated two people at the same time. Perhaps she met the guy in Egypt and didn't like him. Then she met you and liked you? It's not very clear what really happened. I think you should talk to her. The snooping is not such a big deal. Do you live in the US or France?
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