HopefulOne Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 So why is it that I keep going over it in my head. We had a fight, things were said some of which I SHOULD NOT have said ( I did apologize). Some of you may know my situation from reading my other thread. He hung up on me and other than a few ambigous text messages, I haven't heard from him and he hasn't returned my calls, now I just broke my NC after a week and half and left a message, why because I feel guilty somehow. ( It has been a little over two weeks since our fight). Why do I feel guilty, he is the one who doesn't want me or so it appears that way. ???????
norajane Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 I haven't read your other posts, but based on this one, you probably feel guilty because you think that if you hadn't said those things, he'd want to be with you. You're kicking yourself for 'ruining' something, even though it was likely 'ruined' before you said anything anyway. You feel bad becasue you want him and he doesn't want you.
Author HopefulOne Posted August 6, 2006 Author Posted August 6, 2006 well that's probably true.... What I said wasn't all that bad. Just seems weird that someone your in a relationship with for almost 3 years would at least respond or say something. Makes ya feel like thrown out garbage.
Ariadne Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 Hey Hopeful, Please don't beat yourself up over that thing. That discussion of, why didn't you call etc, is not a reason to break up with someone you love. Even if he was upset about that, it really is no big deal. You can talk about it, and you already apologized. It seems like he is using that as an excuse not to talk to you and to blow it out of proportion. Well, girls nag many times. Guys should know that. Unless it becomes unbearble, but I doubt this is the case. You sound like a nice girl. If he hasn't called you after all this time, then the problem is bigger than that silly little argument. Maybe he thinks you are not compatible or who knows what. But still, he should be talking to you and explaining this or decide what to do "together". It'd kind of crappy to be in the limbo like that, sorry about that. Well, hope you get to talk to him soon and resolve this situation, Ariadne
Author HopefulOne Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 Ariadne -- thanks so much for your support and he never did call back after I left the message today. I just feel horrible and you are right- this can't be the reason or it is part of something bigger, in either regard I believed he cared enough about me as a person to let me know something, if this is his way of breaking up with me, then I didn't really know him like I thought, he has never had a problem in the past stating what's on his mind. As I have said even when I called that one time and texted and asked if he wanted me to leave him alone, that I didn't know what he was thinking or feeling ? How hard is that to answer? In his last text which said that there is nothing to forgive, you are you and I am me, just different outlooks, just not compatible, I am still angry with you, I can't talk to you yet ?????
Ariadne Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Hey, Yeah, I can imagine. A week like that, not knowing what's going on, is not even respecting you. And if that was the "breaking up," I mean, over a text message? That's also ridiculous. Boy, some patience you must have with that guy, ah? If I were you (but I'm crazy etc) I'd go to his house to talk to him. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Author HopefulOne Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 Hey, Yeah, I can imagine. A week like that, not knowing what's going on, is not even respecting you. And if that was the "breaking up," I mean, over a text message? That's also ridiculous. Boy, some patience you must have with that guy, ah? If I were you (but I'm crazy etc) I'd go to his house to talk to him. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ Well, I can't do that because he lives like 5 hours away now, he moved for work a couple of months ago. I probably wouldn't do that anyway. I am not one to show up at someones house unwelcomed. He doesn't like surprises anyway. I suppose I should just take the text message we are not compatible as I don't want you. I am going to drive myself crazy otherwise. ( Heck, I am already nuts!) THe message I left for him today, I just ask how he was and if he could give me a call back. I feel like he hates me --- or maybe that's what he wants me to do....
Ariadne Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Hi, THe message I left for him today, I just ask how he was and if he could give me a call back. Well, good luck, hope he calls you soon. Ariadne
Author HopefulOne Posted August 7, 2006 Author Posted August 7, 2006 That's my question for everyone out there.... Do you think I am being pushy? Do you think I am being pathetic or do you think I am being patient and rational? Curious to see what people think..both the guys and the girls?
toonicegirl Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 That's my question for everyone out there.... Do you think I am being pushy? Do you think I am being pathetic or do you think I am being patient and rational? Curious to see what people think..both the guys and the girls? i was doing the same you did...nothing good happened cause of that... im just so bad with my last break up... im not here to give advices...just good luck...i know it's hard when you need answers and you cannot get them
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