My Story

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Here is my story: I feel like I have to post here just to get it off my chest, I don't really like to appear down to other people, I'm always the friend that everyone goes to for advice, not the other way around.

 

Okay for some background: Before this happened, I was always more of a guy that was scared of a relationship, if anything got too serious, I would pull back because I did not want to hurt anyone without being sure. I had dated a lot of girls, I just had never had that type of girlfriend you take home to mom on Christmas.

 

Well anyway, about a year and a half ago, I started talking to one of my good friend's (female) sisters. It started off completely innocent, we would just send each other random e-mails talking about a variety of things, I wasn't even contemplating a relationship because we lived in different states, I just had fun with it. But it was weird, as gradually our little exchanges started turning into the highlight of my day. She then was taking a vacation and asked me if I could come out for a few days, at first I wasn't going to but then I figured what the hell as I had a week off anyway. Well I went and it was the most amazing few days of my life. We got lost a NYC subway and just talked for a couple of hours.

 

When I left, I seriously had goosebumps and cried a little, it was unbelievable. I had just met the woman of my dreams. So, we agreed to a long distance relationship and for the next 9 months things were great. Every 5-6 weeks or so, we'd take turns visiting the other person, we'd stay for awhile (usually a week or two). She would do things I loved, like going to sporting events and she would have fun with me. And I would try new things with her, like going ice skating for the first time.

 

During this time, the girl told me she "loved" me about three different times on the phone, I always responded like "What?" in a kidding around like way, and she would say it was a slip of the tongue. The truth was I did love her, I was just always afraid to say it, I had never told a girl I had loved her before. She was the first girl I could ever really open to. Eventually, when she was visiting me, I woke up next to her and looked over and she was waking up, she opened her eyes and we just sat there and looked at each other and I said it. She told me she loved me too.

Everything was great.

 

Of course this is the "Breaking Up" message board, so I went to visit her in May and I was there for awhile. Everything was great when I was there, but about two days after I got back, she called me and said she thought things were moving too fast and she was getting nervous about upcoming graduation and trying to find a career etc. I was very understanding, I told her to take care of everything she needs to and not to worry about when she will come out to see me next. I am a law student and I never really thought about how we would eventually end up together until I graduated. The distance was actually convenient for me because it allowed me to get my work done.

 

Well a couple of weeks later, she tells me "the distance is getting to her" and she wants to take a break. She says we are both young (not too young 22 and 23) and while we have this distance we should see what else is out there. I'm figuring there is another guy or something but I know for a fact there isn't. I know she has gone on at least one date since this happened but nothing came of it.

 

There have been a few times I have gotten insecure, just because I am far away and I feel like things out of my control. We still talk frequently, most of the time is good, I have a very outgoing personality and so does she and we can just go on little conversations about anything. However sometimes I think she is intentionally mean to me - like she doesn't want things to go too well between us.

 

I had lunch with her sister about a week ago, and she told me that her sister was just going through a phase and needed to get out on her own right now and that it would be good if we lived in the same spot at the same time to see how it would work out.

 

I really don't care where I live, I will take the BAR Exam in her state, we talk about it and she says "If you come, we can date, but I am not making promises on a relationship", so that concerns me, would I be stupid to move to another state just to try "date" someone. I'm honestly in hardcore love with this girl, and I feel like I am the best guy for her, I wouldn't be jealous if she dated other guys, just kind of annoyed. I graduate soon, in December, after that, it is my call. All my friends basically give me the "F-- that bitch", but the sad thing is, she is more of my friend than any of these guys ever were so I don't know what to do.

 

I would really appreciate some feedback, it was nice just typing all that out

[jerseydrive86]

Here is my story: I feel like I have to post here just to get it off my chest, I don't really like to appear down to other people, I'm always the friend that everyone goes to for advice, not the other way around.

 

Okay for some background: Before this happened, I was always more of a guy that was scared of a relationship, if anything got too serious, I would pull back because I did not want to hurt anyone without being sure. I had dated a lot of girls, I just had never had that type of girlfriend you take home to mom on Christmas.

 

Well anyway, about a year and a half ago, I started talking to one of my good friend's (female) sisters. It started off completely innocent, we would just send each other random e-mails talking about a variety of things, I wasn't even contemplating a relationship because we lived in different states, I just had fun with it. But it was weird, as gradually our little exchanges started turning into the highlight of my day. She then was taking a vacation and asked me if I could come out for a few days, at first I wasn't going to but then I figured what the hell as I had a week off anyway. Well I went and it was the most amazing few days of my life. We got lost a NYC subway and just talked for a couple of hours.

 

When I left, I seriously had goosebumps and cried a little, it was unbelievable. I had just met the woman of my dreams. So, we agreed to a long distance relationship and for the next 9 months things were great. Every 5-6 weeks or so, we'd take turns visiting the other person, we'd stay for awhile (usually a week or two). She would do things I loved, like going to sporting events and she would have fun with me. And I would try new things with her, like going ice skating for the first time.

 

During this time, the girl told me she "loved" me about three different times on the phone, I always responded like "What?" in a kidding around like way, and she would say it was a slip of the tongue. The truth was I did love her, I was just always afraid to say it, I had never told a girl I had loved her before. She was the first girl I could ever really open to. Eventually, when she was visiting me, I woke up next to her and looked over and she was waking up, she opened her eyes and we just sat there and looked at each other and I said it. She told me she loved me too.

Everything was great.

 

Of course this is the "Breaking Up" message board, so I went to visit her in May and I was there for awhile. Everything was great when I was there, but about two days after I got back, she called me and said she thought things were moving too fast and she was getting nervous about upcoming graduation and trying to find a career etc. I was very understanding, I told her to take care of everything she needs to and not to worry about when she will come out to see me next. I am a law student and I never really thought about how we would eventually end up together until I graduated. The distance was actually convenient for me because it allowed me to get my work done.

 

Well a couple of weeks later, she tells me "the distance is getting to her" and she wants to take a break. She says we are both young (not too young 22 and 23) and while we have this distance we should see what else is out there. I'm figuring there is another guy or something but I know for a fact there isn't. I know she has gone on at least one date since this happened but nothing came of it.

 

There have been a few times I have gotten insecure, just because I am far away and I feel like things out of my control. We still talk frequently, most of the time is good, I have a very outgoing personality and so does she and we can just go on little conversations about anything. However sometimes I think she is intentionally mean to me - like she doesn't want things to go too well between us.

 

I had lunch with her sister about a week ago, and she told me that her sister was just going through a phase and needed to get out on her own right now and that it would be good if we lived in the same spot at the same time to see how it would work out.

 

I really don't care where I live, I will take the BAR Exam in her state, we talk about it and she says "If you come, we can date, but I am not making promises on a relationship", so that concerns me, would I be stupid to move to another state just to try "date" someone. I'm honestly in hardcore love with this girl, and I feel like I am the best guy for her, I wouldn't be jealous if she dated other guys, just kind of annoyed. I graduate soon, in December, after that, it is my call. All my friends basically give me the "F-- that bitch", but the sad thing is, she is more of my friend than any of these guys ever were so I don't know what to do.

 

I would really appreciate some feedback, it was nice just typing all that out

 

 

Yo i say take a chance. What do you have to lose? Nine out of ten dating usually turns into relationships, espescially since you two claim you love each other. Give it a shot because if you dont decide to go someone else might steal your treasure, ya dig? Fight for the one you love;) !