Guest Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 is there such a thing for a guy to care so much for a girl and think she is everything he is looking for, and therefore be somewhat scared of her?
Yamaha Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 is there such a thing for a guy to care so much for a girl and think she is everything he is looking for, and therefore be somewhat scared of her? Yes. It is called being a doormat. You will be so afraid of losing her you will drive her off by being so needy.
Tony T Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 is there such a thing for a guy to care so much for a girl and think she is everything he is looking for, and therefore be somewhat scared of her? Yes, many people are afraid of being hurt. Others are afraid of initial rejection. Some are so in awe of the girl they have no idea how to approach the situation. It's best in these matters to understand all humans are pretty much the same. Some of the most beautiful ladies in the world are insecure...and even more are waiting for the opportunity to go out with you. You have no idea how many wonderful and strikingly beautiful ladies there are around the world who remain home on Saturday night because every guy who knows her thinks she will surely be busy.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 no woman is everything you're looking for. and if you're looking for everything, you'll never find it
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 is there such a thing for a guy to care so much for a girl and think she is everything he is looking for, and therefore be somewhat scared of her? Absolutely, I'm living proof. Currently going through that very struggle right now. The last thing any guy wants is to know that the girl of his dreams, and I mean the true girl of his dreams, inside and out, rejected him. I mean, rejection hurts enough when you barely know the woman, but when you love her for who she is in her entirety, you begin to imagine wanting to spend the rest of your life with her, and to have that dream shattered is unbearable. Sometimes a guy would rather live with a dull ache in his heart for a long time than deal with the pain of having their heart broken, yet again. There was this movie, I don't remember the title, but one line was "When a great love dies, sometimes all a man can do is run away and marry the woman he loves second most". A powerful illustration of how much rejection can hurt. I wish I could give you some advice, but if I knew what to do, I would be doing it myself right now.
destination_unknown Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 You guys, thats really sad. Its made me sad anyway! Yep, you could get your heartbroken, but maybe your breaking the heart of the girl you love by running away. She could be the one! And you know what, if she isnt the one at least you won't always wonder.
HopefulOne Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 You guys, thats really sad. Its made me sad anyway! Yep, you could get your heartbroken, but maybe your breaking the heart of the girl you love by running away. She could be the one! And you know what, if she isnt the one at least you won't always wonder. Well said.... Sometimes in life we have to take risk otherwise we are always left wondering... I used to be this way but where did it get, if you don't take the risk, you just don't know.... It's hard and yes sometimes it hurts if it doesn't work out but at least you know.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 but maybe your breaking the heart of the girl you love by running away. She could be the one! And you know what, if she isnt the one at least you won't always wonder. Actually, what I meant by that movie quote was sometimes, yeah you love her so much that you are afraid of being rejected, so you never make that move. You wait and you wait and you watch and you hope in your heart of hearts that some miraculous event will bring you two together as more than friends. And then when she does meet someone else who sweeps her off her feet your heart finally shatters into a million tiny pieces and you have to run away, trying to run from the pain every time you see something that reminds you of them. I wish I knew the title of that movie.
Sand&Water Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Actually, what I meant by that movie quote was sometimes, yeah you love her so much that you are afraid of being rejected, so you never make that move. You wait and you wait and you watch and you hope in your heart of hearts that some miraculous event will bring you two together as more than friends. And then when she does meet someone else who sweeps her off her feet your heart finally shatters into a million tiny pieces and you have to run away, trying to run from the pain every time you see something that reminds you of them. I wish I knew the title of that movie. It is no fun. I'm (female) sort of experiencing the same thing but with the genders reversed. Except without the heart shattering into a million pieces, since that hasn't happened yet. Being scared of loving them, to the extent of running away thinking that it is the best for both individuals. Anyways, it can happen. Just make sure that whatever you decide to do, you will not regret later in life.
Outcast Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Well said.... Sometimes in life we have to take risk otherwise we are always left wondering... I used to be this way but where did it get, if you don't take the risk, you just don't know.... It's hard and yes sometimes it hurts if it doesn't work out but at least you know. But sometimes it's easier and more fun to allow yourself to continue having the fantasy that something grand will happen than to have that shattered. Reality can bite bigtime. Hope is what keeps us going, so if keeping your trap shut for a while more allows you to enjoy the hope, where's the harm? I don't check my loto tickets right away. I don't check them for months. That way, there's still the possibility that I might have a big win out there waiting for me. Where if I check them right away, the dream is crushed already.
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