Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 But what kind of confidence? Confidence in attracting women? Confidence with women? Confidence in yourself? Or just confidence in general? And where would I get this confidence?
alphamale Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 But what kind of confidence? Confidence in attracting women? Confidence with women? Confidence in yourself? Or just confidence in general? all of the above brother... And where would I get this confidence? You're either born with it, acquire it over time, or never get it at all. Personally, I got mine at WalMarts in the personal improvement section. It was on sale for $199
burning 4 revenge Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Only be confident if you have something to be confident about. Otherwise, you look like a moron.
superconductor Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Personally, I got mine at WalMarts in the personal improvement section. It was on sale for $199 Oh shat. I spent almost $300 on mine. Did you get the extended warranty too?
superconductor Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 No... Ah... that would explain the difference in the prices then. *phew* for a moment there I thought I got ripped off.
Outcast Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 For starters, confident people do not spend hours per day thinking about themselves, their lives, their virginity, etc etc etc. They are too busy with living to obsess about themselves. They care about other people, causes, things and focus on those people, causes, and things. Numero uno secret to being confident is forget about yourself. Pull your head out of your butt and LIVE.
alphamale Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Numero uno secret to being confident is forget about yourself. Pull your head out of your butt and LIVE. I would agree with that...confidence is a though process, a way of life, a philosophy. Its a very subjective thing, and sometime elusive.
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 It's hard to not think about myself, my life, when me and my life is so messed up, and it's hard to not think about my unwanted virginity. I do care about other people, but there isn't anything for me to focus on as far as other people are concerned. Is forgetting about yourself even normal? Would this really make you confident in all those aspects I written in my first post?
burning 4 revenge Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 in this country it helps to have a)a large penis, or even better b)lots of money now, i don't know about england, or canada, of other countries that talk about invisible, non-tangible qualities
burning 4 revenge Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 It's hard to not think about myself, my life, when me and my life is so messed up, and it's hard to not think about my unwanted virginity. I do care about other people, but there isn't anything for me to focus on as far as other people are concerned. Is forgetting about yourself even normal? Would this really make you confident in all those aspects I written in my first post? man, you're thirty years old. go to amsterdam for a holiday, for christ sakes
Lights Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 You're either born with it, acquire it over time, or never get it at all. Personally, I got mine at WalMarts in the personal improvement section. It was on sale for $199 I doubt it takes a genius to figure out that the original poster is likely to be seeking worthy information regarding methods of the acquisition in question. For starters, confident people do not spend hours per day thinking about themselves, their lives, their virginity, etc etc etc. They are too busy with living to obsess about themselves. They care about other people, causes, things and focus on those people, causes, and things. Numero uno secret to being confident is forget about yourself. Pull your head out of your butt and LIVE. I'll jump in and say that this is good advice overall in life, but not relevant to his question. Focusing on other things in one's life does not necessary create social confidence. (In some cases it might even increase one's overall isolation and weakness in social arenas--I've made the mistake of believing otherwise myself.). It can create improvements in other dimensions of one's life, however, but confidence generated as a result of any success occurring in said preferred causes/things/etc. doesn't necessarily carry over to confidence in attracting women.
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 man, you're thirty years old. go to amsterdam for a holiday, for christ sakes I have social anxiety, and have phobias about traveling if I'm dependent on public transport.
Outcast Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Is forgetting about yourself even normal? Thinking about yourself all the time is what's not normal, IMHO. Do you think Bill Gates thinks about himself all day? What about your own father? Other men you know? Musicians? Engineers? Go read some books on how to be a success - the information translates throughout your life. You focus on goals, on achieving things -and the focus is on the things themselves, not on YOU. Nothing more boring, IMHO, than a person whose main brain occupation is his/her own self! Ew!!!!! There's a world full of ideas out there, for pete's sakes!!! doesn't necessarily carry over to confidence in attracting women. Women are not some breed of space alien. They're just other humans. If you can win the admiration of men, you can also win the admiration of women. I promise you that you'll not win any women if all you do is think about yourself and about how to win women.
alphamale Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 and it's hard to not think about my unwanted virginity. dude...go to a hooker, man. lots of men do it. are you sure your virginity isn't "wanted"??
Outcast Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 I have social anxiety, and have phobias about traveling if I'm dependent on public transport. Are you getting treated?
destination_unknown Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 I do care about other people, but there isn't anything for me to focus on as far as other people are concerned. K, I don't know of any countries where there aren't lonely elderly people who would like someone to visit/take them shopping, homeless people in need of a cup of coffee and few sandwiches, underprivaleged kids who need a tutor / substitute older brother who they can talk to, community areas in need of a good clean up and don't forget about abandoned animals too, the list of things to focus on about other causes is ENDLESS. Seriously, volunteer. I'll bet there are tons of organisations in your area who would be delighted to have a strong man to help out. You never know, you might just meet another volunteer who can help you out with the virginity thing, plus knowing you can make a contribution to society will boost your confidence and/or you will be too busy to worry bout it. I love volunteering, I actually think I get more out of it than the cause!
burning 4 revenge Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 I have social anxiety, and have phobias about traveling if I'm dependent on public transport. well, in the city you live in, don't you know where the poor people live?
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 To be honest now that I think about it, most of my time isn't really spent about me thinking of myself or my virginity, it's spent by me thinking about improving my life, as in becoming more independant, getting my own place, a job, a car, beating social anxiety, and getting laid. Basically, my time is spent on trying to achieve goals.
destination_unknown Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Google "UK Charities" you will find directories and I guarantee you will find one related to something your interested in. I'll bet there is one for people with anxiety disorders, why not volunteer for them? Ross, you only have one life. Do you choose to live it or live in fear of it?
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 dude...go to a hooker, man. lots of men do it. are you sure your virginity isn't "wanted"?? There aren't any hookers near me, I'd have to travel very far to get one which I can't do. But obviously once I have my own car I'd be able to do this.
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 Are you getting treated? Yes, I'm on medication, it seems to be working a little, but there's some unwanted side effects, so I think I'm going to have to change them. I'm also a waiting list to see a psychologist.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 There aren't any hookers near me, I'd have to travel very far to get one which I can't do. But obviously once I have my own car I'd be able to do this.man, england's tough. in this country they make house calls. damned socialized medicine
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 K, I don't know of any countries where there aren't lonely elderly people who would like someone to visit/take them shopping, homeless people in need of a cup of coffee and few sandwiches, underprivaleged kids who need a tutor / substitute older brother who they can talk to, community areas in need of a good clean up and don't forget about abandoned animals too, the list of things to focus on about other causes is ENDLESS. Seriously, volunteer. I'll bet there are tons of organisations in your area who would be delighted to have a strong man to help out. You never know, you might just meet another volunteer who can help you out with the virginity thing, plus knowing you can make a contribution to society will boost your confidence and/or you will be too busy to worry bout it. I love volunteering, I actually think I get more out of it than the cause! I have SA. But I have thought that when I am able to work I wouldn't mind having a job saving lives, also I'd like to give money to dog charity's.
Author Ross_K Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 well, in the city you live in, don't you know where the poor people live? I don't understand what you're talking about, but anyway, I don't live in the city, I live in the middle of no where.
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