Guest Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 My children went for there first visitation with thier father in Pensacola. They will be go for one whole week. We have never been away from each other this long. I have been having a difficult time with the whole seperation. I did not want this divorce. Yesterday I thought maybe if I told him how I felt I would feel better. I did'nt expect him to just drop everything and come running back. I expected a little more compassion. But this is not what I got. We did talk about most things that has happen over the last year. He has moved on with his life and I knew that. I thought he proberly had a girlfriend but I wanted to know but than I did'nt. SO I asked him. HE did not want to tell me. But I Insisted. Hes had a girlfriend for about a month. All I wanted to do was try to get answers to maybe feel better and move on. But I feel worse. We have been married for nine years. And just can not understand how someone can move on so quickly. I can't imagine being with another person but him. He told me that it was basicly over and the best thing that we could do is just be friends and get along for our children. which I agree. But this is so hard. I just don't know what to do.
whichwayisup Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Can I ask why the marriage ended? You actually have a right to know if he's seeing someone as your kids are with him for a week. It's better to find out through him incase she meets your kids, last thing you want to deal with is hearing that daddy has someone in his life from your kids. Don't be his friend - Only talk to him when it's about the kids. Keep everything else to yourself. I know that is going to be hard to do, but knowing about his personal life, what he's up to etc., will only upset you. The less you know the better - Again, unless it has to do with the kids.
angi_1234 Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 You wanted to know why we are not together. About a year ago my children and I came here to Naples to stay with my parents which is 10 hours away. I had our second child in feb. 05. I was recovering from the c-section. I was working before that. My husband worked at Wal-mart and it just was not enough money. I always encourage him to get a better job and he could. We were about to lose our home because we could not pay the rent or any other bills for that matter so he thought it was best that we came here. HE said he would find a better job and save money so we could come back.Before we left his mother had to tell how much of a horrible person I was and how I have made her life a living hell for nine years. And kenny said nothing to her. Did not even take up for his own wife. It has pretty much always been that way with his mother. She could say anything at all and he would belive it no matter how crazy it was. Well several months past he got a better job but no money was saved. I don't know what he was doing with it. Because he sent us very little. In November I decided to go back to Pensacola with our children stay with a friend because his mother did not allow me to stay at her house. I got a job at a nursing home working night ****ft. I stayed up all night to work and all day to take care of the girls. I did this for about a week. Only because my friends husband had a new job and would need the car so I did not have a car to go back and forth to work. Not only that they were having problems of thier own. So with no car and really no one to babysitt during the day. I had no chose but to come back to my parents house. Snice he was not paying child support like he was suppose I had to go to the foodstamp office and than I needed proof of the income that kenny was sending me money so I had to now go to the child support office where I did not want to be. And I know your thinking why didnt you get a job there. Well since I have 2 children It would cost about 1000.00 in childcare a month and I could not offord that. That is all I would be paying. Needless to say he was not very happy. In january of this year I got divorce papers from him. We have been in a battle ever since. He was trying for custy of the girls. I recieved temp. for now and more child support. He tried to say I was keeping our children from him and I wasnt. I told him he could visit anytime he wanted. You see he would call me and threaten me to give him the girls and he would bring them back when he felt like it. I was scared. Anyways in short this is why we are seperated. I thought we were going to be a family and he wanted a divorce. I know that I need to know about his girlfriend. My 3 year old is not really understanding why mommy and daddy can't be together anymore and we all live together in the same house. He promises that he will not bring our children around her at this time. But I don't believe him. He has lied to me so much. I do not know what to believe. But I hope for our daughters sake he will wait. or never do it.
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