Free_To_fly Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 I'm hoping someone can give me some perspective on my problem.. I broke up with my fiance of 2 1/2 years five weeks ago. We both new it was coming but none the less it is hard to let someone go. Up until last weekend we constantly talked and chatted via email. We expressed our hurt and affections and talked about getting back together but it seemed that neither one of us felt that way at the same time.. I guess we were both having our good and bad days. Last weekend he told me that he no longer wanted to talk to me because he felt like he wasn't going to be able to move on.. that he still loved me but too long of a time had passed without our reconciliation and that was the biggest issue for him. I was needless to say hurt but did my best to understand because part of me agreed with him. We didnt talk at all for a couple of days and one night I decided to go on a local dating site and make a profile.. not so much to begin dating but too make friends... and who knows. Needless to say one day I came home to find numerous emails in my inbox from my ex calling me every name in the book.. telling me that he was disgusted with my behaviour because I had told him it would take me a long time to get over us. He then told me that he would be on every dating site available and his profile would be easy to find because his pic would accompany it. Sure enough that very night he appeared on the site that I had joined saying he was looking to date women.. In his profile he included a very hurtfull dig about wanting to have children (because his clock is ticking) this is hurtful because in the past 10 months we had lost two babies. Both misscarriages. He even went as far as to let members rate his picture and to say that women could message him if they were between the ages of 25 - 31.. which is one year younger than my 32 years. He then emailed me again told me that he hated my guts insulted everything about me ... wieght looks etc.. and that he never wanted to speak to me again because I was a hypocrite. I tried contacting him in the last few days to discuss this but he refuses to have contact with me... I deleted my profile.. but I cant seem to stop myself from checking out that site seeing when he is on and how many women have added him to there favorites... Help I am hurting and clueless as to what to do... opinions postive or negative to my cause would be appreciated.
Pink Amulet Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 This man sounds immature, and spineless. He doesn't deserve your pain, just think of the end of this relationship as a blessing. You have now seen his true colours...
superconductor Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 You don't need this dude's drama and abuse in your life. PA is absolutely right; you've seen his true colours. Be thankful (I know, it's hard) that you got a glimpse of this before you made a lifelong commitment. Hang on, we'll get you through this. In the meantime, you need to NC (no contact) this guy out of your life completely and totally.
TheSilentType Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Be glad that you saw this now....this is a taste of what would lie in wait in your future. I mean, I know I am an immature person who cuts out people in his life and doesn't give them a 2nd chance. But atleast I have the maturity to never resort to harassing the other person or making them feel less. I just leave them alone forever. I personally feel such behavior is pathetic.
leopardprint Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Yeah, I agree with everyone on this. This guy is being a total jerk about it. Sure, he has the right to be a little upset since he does care about you, but what he did was uncalled for and TOTALLY unnecessary. You did what you had to do to move on. I would definitely NOT try to contact him. Do NOT feel guilty at all, or like you owe him anything after the way he treated you. Like they said, you've seen his true colors. There's no need to explain yourself to him.
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