nexia Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 A Guy says he wants to date but NO intimacy (serial dater )??? what gives?
Author nexia Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 any ensight to this would be welcome as its confusing serial dater dates lots of diff gilrs but wants no intimacy doing the friend thing No relationships whats ED?
Walk Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I'm not sure what you mean by no intimacy. No sex? Maybe it's for religious reasons?
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 ED = erectile dysfunction. What if the guy is just uncertain and very hesitant about getting physically involved. Would that be a plausible reason.
Winfield Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 A Guy says he wants to date but NO intimacy (serial dater )??? what gives? He may not be a serial dater. Instead, maybe he just wants to take things slowly, making sure that things feel "right" when he's with the right girl?? *shrug*
Author nexia Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 nope its not erectile dysfunction serial dater dates lots of diff gilrs but wants no intimacy doing the friend thing No relationships any other ideas to what the deal is
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I think we need a clearer definition of what constitutes intimacy for this guy. To me, intimacy includes kissing, holding hands, maybe a little petting/fondling. If he's ok with stuff like that, and it's just the sex that he's holding off on, then it's generally either an emotional or spiritual reason.
Author nexia Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 No kissing, holding hands, petting/fondling................ just slight flirty touches ???
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Are you sure he's not gay? Or Ultra-Orthodox Jewish? It could be that he just wants to make sure that you are the right one before committing himself physically. Some men, myself included, need to be sure that we feel "right" about someone before taking it to the next level. To expand, dating is our way of getting to know someone's personality. Sometimes we need to assure ourselves that the person is compatible, as we tend to make a mental connection between physical intimacy and "falling in love".
Author nexia Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 [quote name= .Some men, myself included, need to be sure that we feel "right" about someone before taking it to the next level. "".[/quote] is the serial dating part of that exploration?
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I'm not quite sure of the definition of serial dating. If you mean to date one girl after another after another with no intention of hooking up, those kind of self serving, ego inflating dates...then no, it's not part of MY equation. Of course it takes me weeks to even ask for a phone number, so I might not be the best source of advice on this matter. Me personally, I's been my experience that each progressive step of intimacy is just one more thing to miss and hurt over if it's not the right relationship, so I like to take it slow. About as slow as molasses in January in Alberta.
Winfield Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 is the serial dating part of that exploration? Surely serial daters don't spend a lot of time with one particular person though, ie, spending the time needed in order to get to know someone? Either that or, as a serial dater, his bank balance is extremely healthy!
norajane Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 serial dater dates lots of diff gilrs but wants no intimacy doing the friend thing No relationships Why are you calling it 'dating lots of girls' if he is up front with all of them and says he just wants to be friends, and doesn't want a relationship? That doesn't sound like dating at all, much less serial dating. Or am I misunderstanding what you're saying.
superconductor Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 ED = extremely drunk No chance of getting it up whilst one's under the influence.
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