misslady7 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I'm sure many of you have read previous posts concerning my relationship issues. Okay last week I decided to give my (now ex-boyfriend) space, over the weekend I took a trip with my mom and came back on Sunday. Now his cell phone is off (has been for months now) so I decided to let him use my phone all last week and the weekend I was away. The whole time I was away he was constantly trying to get in contact with me by calling my mom, step dad, job whatever number he could get to reach me. I notice he was giving a lot of attention in which I hardly get when I am in his presence. So I came back on Sunday and he spent the night over my place, and everything was fine. The plan was for us to spend the rest of the week together so the next day I went over to his house to spend the week. The whole time I was there, he paid me no attention he would get up and go out without telling or inviting me, or he would play cards or video games all night and not pay me any mind. I recently told him I wasn't happy, and all he can say is that I complain too much, I confuse him, and it seems that I want him under me 24/7 (not true). I just basically feel that he should make some time for me expecially since our plan was to spend the week together. So yesterday after work I went back to his place, and his aunt told me he went to the beach (which was 10 minutes before I arrived) with some people. She told him that he should wait for me, and he went anyway without me, he didn't bother to call me or even ask me. The worst part of it is, he hasn't spent any time with me all week, and why couldn't I go to the beach? Why didn't he tell me? But that's something that he does and thinks that it's ok. I would have loved to go especially since these last few weeks has been extremely hot. And his house has no air condition. So I had made a statement about how recently I had given him the last bit of money I had (I ended up broke trying to help him) so his cousin and aunt said that I was stupid; They don't understand why I am with him because all he do is disrespect me. Although it was the truth it made me feel worst. So I made the decision to gather my things, and go home (crying constantly). While on my way home I called my network provider and changed my cell number and made the decision to not deal with it anymore. All he does is hurt me, make me feel like sh**, and it's not fair. Now I am here at work wanting to break down and cry because I am so hurt. I tried so hard to make this work, tried talking; He would tell me that he wants to be with me, he sees a future but was never willing to compromise. It was all about him and what he wanted, I always had to wait for him, and it seem like I was just convenient. But now I know that I have to move on and never look back, although a part of me wish he would call or send an e-mail. I'm sorry, I just needed to vent. Honestly this has been consistent, and I tried to work with him :lmao:and conform to what he wanted to make things better. But believe me I have went through worst, but I just felt that this was the last straw and I couldn't take it anymore.
ash8752 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I can imagine it being VERY hard. I hate that helpless feeling. BUT....You made the best decision for yourself. He sounds selfish. You deserve so much more in life than someone who is constantly bringing you down the way that he has. I have read some of your previous threads and my goodness you put up with a lot. Make sure you take a few nights off for yourself, cry, be sad. BUT THEN...start occupying your time with something fun and new. Go out with friends. I see you live in New York Cty, there is so much to do there, not to mention the many men. Hey, watch lots of Sex in the City. ALways helps me when i am sad!!! I wish you the best!!!
Author misslady7 Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 Thank you so much for your swift response. I am just going to do my best and take it day by day.
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