doubleint Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Ok so this girl messages me online and says we have alot in common and wants to chat with me. I message her back, we get to talking, she gives me her number and says she wants to hang out the next day. Now this is where things get weird, I call her the next day at around 5PM, her sister answers the phone and says shes sleeping. What the hell? At 5PM? So I tell her sister to tell her that I called. She calls back later and we actually end up hanging out, I then realize why she sleeps so late, she starts work at 11PM. Anyways, things hit off pretty well I guess, had a nice conversation. We didnt get to hang out long because she had to work so soon. Before we parted ways she wanted to know if I wanted to hang out the next day, so I said that sounds good. I call her the next day 2 times and both times she was sleeping. She never called back. I then send her an email that night saying I tried to get in touch with her, she didnt email me back, even though she read the email. Now im lost, I never been in a situation where the girl seemed clingy then all of a sudden theres no communication. What should I do? Should I call her again or wait for her to come to me? I mean, she came on to me in the first place, where do I stand now? I dont know if she doesnt want anything to do with me anymore or if its just her job. Why would she even say she wanted to hang out the next day then never call back or anything? Am I just freaking out because I never been in a situation like this before or what?
Winfield Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Welcome to the world of great dating mysteries! Nah, seriously, whatever you do, don't contact her again - the ball's in her court, you've left at least 3 messages for her...if she hasn't got the courtesy to return your messages by one method or another, she isn't worthy of your time. Whether she's had a change of heart about you, or her job's getting in the way, only she can give you the answer. But, as she hasn't got back to you, I reckon the former suggestion is the reason for her lack of communication.
Author doubleint Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 Not calling her did cross my mind a couple times but what threw me off was when she left the night she came over, I asked if she worked weekends, hinting on how we should hang out this weekend. Then she said "Yea, I dont work weekends, but we can hang out tommorow if you want." Makes me think like she would have just kept it as she didnt work that weekend instead of wanting to hang out the next day if she didnt want to hang out. And maybe she didnt reply to the email because I didnt end it in a question? Im starting to feel paranoid and clingy, so I guess I wont call her. I dont know, it all just seems weird to me.
Author doubleint Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 UPDATE: So she emailed me back today saying how she was sorry and how shes been really busy, she said she couldnt hang out this weekend cuz shes going out of town and she would call me Sunday. So thats it, if she wants to hang out, she will call me, im not calling anymore. How much you guys wanna bet that she wont call me? lol.
Sand&Water Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 She sounds flimsy. Did you tell her she should call you or did she say she'll call you? I don't think she'll call right away. Maybe in a few days. Definately don't contact her so very soon. Let sometime go by. Let her slowly come to you.
Author doubleint Posted August 6, 2006 Author Posted August 6, 2006 She said she would call me. And yea, she does seem flimsy. Im just going to wait it out, see if she even calls me and move on. I really think this girl is cool but im not going to wait on hand and foot for her.
konfuzd Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 I feel your frustration, but at the same time, I'm a little bit morbidly gleaming inside that a guy is going through this! This is a re-iteration of every guy I've dated in the last 2 years!!! He initiates contact-asks me out-things go well-make plans to hang out again soon-he doesn't call, nor return calls-I wonder what's going on-Eventually he calls, I tell him I've moved onto bigger and better things. LOL
Chinook Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 UPDATE: So she emailed me back today saying how she was sorry and how shes been really busy, she said she couldnt hang out this weekend cuz shes going out of town and she would call me Sunday. So thats it, if she wants to hang out, she will call me, im not calling anymore. How much you guys wanna bet that she wont call me? lol. You know what... I can't stand that "busy" word. I think you're right. I wouldn't expect her to call... ... or if she does, expect more of the same shenanigans from her.
Author doubleint Posted August 6, 2006 Author Posted August 6, 2006 You know, it would be one thing if I was the one who came on to her, but she came on to me! lol.
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