Looking for dating sites for the disabled

[burning 4 revenge]

So, I joined another disabled dating site. This one seems a little better. There still is the problem of not enough profiles and so everyone is so spread out.

 

I sent messages to two women . One was a Mexican-American paraplegic, the other a Cuban-American stroke survivor. Despite both their being in wheel chairs I found both of them facially attractive. They seemed like good women from their profiles, but who can tell from a profile. And it's not like they have the choice to be really slutty.

 

What's strange is that even in the realm of disability dating one tends to hunt for the prettier pictures. Nothing like human nature

[Pink Amulet]

That isn't strange at all. I would definitely date a sexy guy in a wheel chair

[burning 4 revenge]

So I'm looking at the some of the male adds, just to get a feel for the competition, and I'm noticing several adds from healthy guys specifically looking for certain fetish disabilites.

 

One guy says he has a specific attraction for amputees. Another for wheel chairs. Very disturbing. Very disturbing indeed.

[Pink Amulet]

Someone brought up the amputee fetish on my fetish thread....

 

Seems to be more common than I had hoped

[Yamaha]

I'm trying to understand your position, B4R.

 

Do you want to join one of these sites because you feel like disabled people are worthy of love and affection or you think they have no one and would be an easier conquest?

[burning 4 revenge]

I'm trying to understand your position, B4R.

 

Do you want to join one of these sites because you feel like disabled people are worthy of love and affection or you think they have no one and would be an easier conquest?

It's a long story Yamaha. I don't know how to post a link, but it's in the I Want to Die thread. I sort of have a disability of my own and I'm just starting to learn to deal with it.

[mishy]

Can you tell us what your disability actually is?

Society view the disabled very much like they view childhood (the disabled as helpless, innocent) and so they don't recognise that disabled people have sexual desire and the need to love and be loved just like anyone else.

[burning 4 revenge]

Can you tell us what your disability actually is?

Society view the disabled very much like they view childhood (the disabled as helpless, innocent) and so they don't recognise that disabled people have sexual desire and the need to love and be loved just like anyone else.

I refer to it in post #11 of this thread

[mishy]

Yeah i had read that before, ok now i understand.... You sound like you need someone who is just a really understanding person, a decent person who loves you for who you are, and i don't know that that would ONLY be someone else who is disabled, there can be some real nasty disabled people out there too (i've met them....)

[Pink Amulet]

Why are you postponing an implant?

[burning 4 revenge]

Why are you postponing an implant?

It's complicated. Right now I don't need it yet, Cialis works, but I still have a difficult time achieving orgasm during intercourse.

 

If more scar tissue builds and negatively impacts some veins in my pelvis anymore, I will definately need it. From what I understand.

 

I have ED, but I'm not impotent (depending on your definition of impotent)

[Pink Amulet]

Can you achieve orgasm through other means?

[burning 4 revenge]

Can you achieve orgasm through other means?

Yeah, through masturbation ,rigorous felatio and violent anal sex, but none of those are the basis for good relationships

 

The primary condition is called venous leak and it's caused by some fibrotic tissue which may, or may not be Peyronies

[Pink Amulet]

Violent anal sex... mmm romantic

[RecordProducer]

B4R, I really don't understand why you're looking for someone on a dating site for disabled when you don't belong to that category.

 

The term "disabled" is imposed and commonly accepted by the society and refers to people who have a certain medical condition that prevents them from functioning physically or mentally properly in situations that require responsibility; from crossing the street to operating machines, from lifting weights to walking.

 

Your condition is only intimate and irrelevant in any circumstance other than in bed with your partner. It's no different from a person whose libido is low or non-existent. ED or impotence are not disability and you should not think of yourself as of a disabled person.

 

In my opinion, you should find a woman who is not much into sex, someone who will be happy to kiss you and hold you and be touched and licked by you and after all, why not give you violent fellatio or anal sex or hand job?

 

You can put your profile on a regular dating site and state that sex is not important to you. A horny woman will not reply. A frigid woman will be curious... Just a suggestion.

[burning 4 revenge]

You can put your profile on a regular dating site and state that sex is not important to you. A horny woman will not reply. A frigid woman will be curious... Just a suggestion.

I appreciate your reply RP ,but I'm not like some other posters here. Unfortunately, sex is important to me. I think about it all the time.

[burning 4 revenge]

If anybody comes back to this thread, I have a question.

 

Do you think that hot women in wheelchairs get hit on often?

 

There is this woman who's profile I was looking at, but under normal circumstances she would be way out of my league. I'm talking Pink Amulet hot ,P1xie hot, except she's in a wheel chair.

 

I'm sure that cuts down on her desirability in the eyes of some men, although I'm sure not in others. So, do you think I should even write her?

[allina]

So, do you think I should even write her?

 

Why not? If you are attracted to her and interested in getting to know her go for it.

[burning 4 revenge]

I've been corresponding with another woman through e-mails for the last two weeks. She lives in PA, so it was only correspondence and nothing serious, but I just found out a few minutes ago that she has ALS. She's a pretty woman too, beautiful eyes, life is so tragic.

 

Her boyfriend of six years dumped her when she was diagnosed. Can you imagine? That's so harsh it's surreal.

[RecordProducer]

I appreciate your reply RP ,but I'm not like some other posters here. Unfortunately, sex is important to me. I think about it all the time.

So you think of yourself as a sexual man with limited ability to screw? I really don't get your logic. Sorry, it's not really my business, I just think you overestimate the importance of sex and underestimate the importance of other aspects of a relationship.

 

Right now you want sex and think about it all the time so it has 100% importance to you in comparison to other things. But when you're in a relationship, you can f*ck once or twice a week and enjoy love, friendship, and fun company in the remainder 6.99 days of the week.

 

Do you think that hot women in wheelchairs get hit on often?

I am sure many men want to sleep with her, but certainly not as many as if she were not disabled. I doubt that anyone healthy would think about something more serious with her, but you never know. Unfortunately.

 

You may think that she can't wait to be sexually pleased, but I am afraid she gets that often enough and is actually craving love and romance. And if you're not serious about ANY disabled person, please don't give them any false hopes. A person in a wheelchair might be severely traumatized if they discover they were just used for empty pleasure and left alone to pick up the pieces of their broken heart.

 

I know you don't mean any harm, you're a good guy, but you might cause it accidentally.

[Pink Amulet]

If anybody comes back to this thread, I have a question.

 

Do you think that hot women in wheelchairs get hit on often?

 

There is this woman who's profile I was looking at, but under normal circumstances she would be way out of my league. I'm talking Pink Amulet hot ,P1xie hot, except she's in a wheel chair.

 

I'm sure that cuts down on her desirability in the eyes of some men, although I'm sure not in others. So, do you think I should even write her?

 

I knew someone, a stunning woman, whose modelling contract took her to Vogue in NYC. She had a very wealthy and attractive boyfriend, he was high on cocaine one night and drove his car off a bridge in Sydney (not THE bridge).

 

She is now a parapalegic. She ended the relationship with the guy soon after and has been lonely ever since From what I understand (through other friends) men use her as a novelty. The hot woman in the wheel chair- "I had sex with a sexy wheel chair chick".

 

If this woman was hit on all the time, why would she be on a dating website?

 

I think you should contact her! See where it goes....

 

 

P.S Thanks a lot by the way. Haha, I am sure I speak for P1xie as well when I say it is nice to be a benchmark for super hot ratings

 

P.P.S RP is right about your "disabilty" classification... Although I am sure this has no bearing on this dating site.

[Diver012]

B4R,

 

Your condition sounds serious and im glad your on your way to dealing with it. Im just curious what alternatives you have discussed with your doctor? There is a surgery that may help that doesnt involve implants.

 

Also, You may want to go down to your local GNC Health store and check out L-Arginine. It "Helps maintain blood vessel tone"

 

I take 2000 MG a day. It does make a difference.

 

Oh and BTW, yeah I have the same problem you do, in case you were wondering where all this is coming from. I have a healthy sex life, with healthy women. Its not an issue for me or the women I date. I simply pull out my little perscription bottle and say, this is part of the deal. If they have a problem with it its addressed before we have sex for the first time. No harm, no foul.

[burning 4 revenge]

B4R,

 

Your condition sounds serious and im glad your on your way to dealing with it. Im just curious what alternatives you have discussed with your doctor? There is a surgery that may help that doesnt involve implants.

 

Also, You may want to go down to your local GNC Health store and check out L-Arginine. It "Helps maintain blood vessel tone"

 

I take 2000 MG a day. It does make a difference.

 

Oh and BTW, yeah I have the same problem you do, in case you were wondering where all this is coming from. I have a healthy sex life, with healthy women. Its not an issue for me or the women I date. I simply pull out my little perscription bottle and say, this is part of the deal. If they have a problem with it its addressed before we have sex for the first time. No harm, no foul.

I appreciate the post and it's good to get a response from someone who understands first hand. I'll PM you later.

 

Thanks again for the post.

[burning 4 revenge]

So you think of yourself as a sexual man with limited ability to screw? I really don't get your logic.

:lmao:

 

That was funny, but I don't think I explained myself well.

 

In a sense, yes, I am a sexual man as most men are sexual men. Afterall, I still produce all the same hormones and my boys put out just as much juice as any other "sexual man".

 

Part of what hurt so much with Gigi was being made to feel less of a man, because of a mechanical failure of one part of a very complicated process. I still am aroused like normal men, I still feel desire, I'm not a eunuch.

 

I understand what you're saying about frigid women, but if there are surgical and non-surgical alternatives which will restore function where there is dysfunction, albeit with artificial support, it would be preferable to a permanent asexual existence.

[alphamale]

Now, I could handle no arms or six hours away, but no arms and six hours away? Come on!

What about no legs and only 30 minutes away? Or how about no limbs at all but only 1 mile away?