Sally00 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. I'm 20 and he's almost 20. His sister asked why he hasn't given me a promise ring yet. He didn't really say much. I don't know. I don't even know what a promise ring really is... I'd say it's a "pre-engagement ring." We always talk about marriage as if we're already engaged. We might as well say we ARE. I've always told him how I don't care much for diamond rings and all that, especially expensive ones at that. He was in a 2 1/2 yr relationship before me. And a few other ones that weren't as long before. When his sister asked why he didn't give me a promise ring, one of the things he said was, "I didn't even give my last gf one who I was with for years!" Then she said, "Well, that wasn't really a mature relationship to begin with." He was never happy in that relationship... always had problems and everything. THIS relationship is important. We've been friends for over a year before we started dating. And he's alwayssss liked me (he was still with his past gf at the time). He said he's never felt this way before... And honestly, neither have I. He's my first love. I'm just wondering... - What do you think a promise ring is? - How long were you and your boyfriend/girlfriend together since you got one?
ShoeGirl Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 - What do you think a promise ring is? I think a promise ring is basically the same thing as an engagement ring, but if you call it a promise ring then you are not ready to be engaged. I had a friend once who go a promise ring from her boyfriend, she said that it meant the he promised to love her and to be true to her, I would think that if you are in a relationship for very long that a guy would love his girlfriend and want to be true to her. I honestly don't see the point of promise rings. - How long were you and your boyfriend/girlfriend together since you got one? I have known my bf for 3.5 years and we have been together more than 2 of them... and I don't have a promise ring, I don't expect one, I am content waiting until we get engaged. He has mentioned promise rings before and we talked about the idea, but I told him it is up to him what he wants to do.
johan Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I knew a guy who was nearly 40 and gave his girlfriend a promise ring. I felt like punching him in the head.
allina Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I always thought promise rings were silly and juvenile. I don't really understand the point, and say just wait for an engagement.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Sallizero0000, i prmos u mi next very best perl neklace
Touche Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Hey, Burning? Wouldn't it just be like a little choker in your case? Not a whole necklace? (I'm kidding, I'm kidding!)
burning 4 revenge Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Hey, Burning? Wouldn't it just be like a little choker in your case? Not a whole necklace? (I'm kidding, I'm kidding!) It depends how liberal I am with my jewals. Maybe I'll discipline myself and save up a bit so I can cover you in splendor
Walk Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Promise rings make me think of high-school. What are you promising? And why the HECK wasn't it a promise before the ring? Does a ring make someone keep their promises? Promise rings make me think of short term, not ready for a real commitment, but need something to make your girl happy with your inability to commit. Besides, if the only ring he ever gives you is the engagement ring, it would make it more significant. Something he hasn't done, vs he gives rings and promises every other month.
rina_r Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I'm just wondering... - What do you think a promise ring is? - How long were you and your boyfriend/girlfriend together since you got one? Dont know what it is. Dont care what it is. Never had one. It is not rings and marriage certificates that keep couples together.
littlekitty Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Search Wikipedia for it! But to quote: In some cultures, young adults in partnership wear 'friendship rings' as a sign of their commitment to each other. Generally speaking, however, 'promise rings' are uncommon except for the very young. My personal opinion would be that 20 is a bit old for Promise Rings. Just wait until you get an engagement ring. We in the UK don't tend to do this fullstop.
Author Sally00 Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 Thanks for the input!! Yeah, promise rings were never something I thought about. Why have a promise ring? Why not go straight to an engagement ring? lol We're pretty much engaged. I don't need a ring to know that.
Pink Amulet Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 It depends how liberal I am with my jewals. Maybe I'll discipline myself and save up a bit so I can cover you in splendor :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: A promise ring!?!?!??! What a load of sh*t.
Great Gazoo Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 A promise ring to me was a engagement ring without a marriage date set. It said I would always be true to her and she could rely on me. To me it said she was my girl. I gave my wife one after we dated for 6 months, it was a couple months passed her 16 th birthday . I think its more a teenager thing but at the time it was the world to her. We got married a couple years later after a 6 month engagement and 14 years later the promise ring still holds true, so you can laugh if you want, whatever.
insomnie Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I think it's a nice show of commitment for those who aren't ready to really think about marriage, but know that the grass isn't greener. That said, I'd rather wait for the real thing.
Hitman10000 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 LOL? What the hell is a promise ring, is this some White people American culture thing? I give the girl a nice necklace in the beginning, then earrings and to me that's the step away from an engagement ring. Cause it's obvious..Necklace, Earrings (or bracelet if she's doesn't have holes in her ears) then the engagement ring. Necklace = 6-9 months into relationship Earrings = 12-15 months into relationship Engagement ring = 18-21 months into relationship I'm in my late 20s, so if you're one of those young punks in their early 20s, add 6 months. And if you're in your 30s, subtract 3 months. If you've been in a relationship for under 4 years when you met each other in your early 20s and there's no ring.. Trust me, NO MARRIAGE. Under 3 years for those in late 20s. And under 2 years for those in your 30s. I'm not trying to make it sound like a DEFINITE thing, but come on. Marriage is not about love, romantic relationships are. Marriage is a combo of finances and the possible agreement of raising children or whatever together. PS. Don't listen to your sister, women advice should be taken with a grain of salt and their opinions are biased. Male opinions are biased from what they see and observe from othe rmen. And if you were friends for a year, that doesn't count. So by now you should be getting something easy, dunno what the hell this promise ring is, but it sounds like a good direction.
hotgurl Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I knew a guy who was nearly 40 and gave his girlfriend a promise ring. I felt like punching him in the head. Could you come to my house and punch my BF. He gave me a promise ring for my B-day and he is in his 40's.
mboston1 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 you're both too young to be making such a ridiculous committment, everyone should wait to their at least 30 before making lifelong committments Jeeeez
Author Sally00 Posted August 12, 2006 Author Posted August 12, 2006 you're both too young to be making such a ridiculous committment, everyone should wait to their at least 30 before making lifelong committments Jeeeez Ridiculous commitment? LOL. What... are you 30 years old who hasn't been married yet? Just because you haven't doesn't mean other people should do the same... My parents were married at 20 in fact. They're STILL together... A LOT of people get married in their 20s. That's actually the average decade people get married.... it's not ridiculous. lol
Pink Amulet Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 *looks at divorce figures* Maybe it is ridiculous?
MsArtful Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I know this sixteen year old girl who had been going out with this guy for TWO weeks, and using ALL her savings she bought him and her promise rings that cost $400 dollars each, he dumped her a week later, and didn't give the ring back.
bab Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I'm not a big fan of promise rings. To me it goes like this: A promise ring is an expression that you are going to get engaged. An engagement means you are going to get married. Hence a promise ring means you are going to going to get married. Hmmm... For very young couples that aren't planning on getting married anytime soon, like not for years, but have a relationship where calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend seems like a simplification of their relationship, I guess they make sense.
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