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how do you deal with a guy who only

wants to be friends with either : girls who he thinks he can

get into bed, or guys who he thinks can maybe do something for

him, Career-wise?

 

this guy is a friend of a friend so i'm not 100%

good buddies with him, but i know and have hung out

with him many, many times in our circle of friends. Basically

he's a dirtbag, very conceited and very self absorbed (but at

the same time, I think he

has some internal issues with lonliness, self worth) He'll

be insulting, mean, knock others down (but all in good fun,

or so that's always the excuse)

 

recently, he stopped talking

to my friend because of something dumb he thinks my friend

did to him (which she didn't) and so he in turn stopped calling

her, and stopped calling me, talked a bunch of crap about

me and my friend and other friends (all dumb high school kinda

behavior even though he's 30)

 

anyway, long story short, 6 months later, he's coming around

again and trying to be buddy buddy with us and everyone is

basically forgiving him just to be nice, theyre not going out of their

way, but just to smooth things out....but I refuse to be friends

with him. I don't need guys like this in my life. He's gradually

making his way back into the circle, trying to apologize for all the dumb things he said about us, the comments he made.

i've heard that a lot of the group has somewhat forgiven him, for sake of argument. but I don't want to accept him back and i'd actually like to tell him

to F*ck Off, literally, since i think he sucks, i think he uses people

and i think he's fake.

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how do you deal with a guy who only

wants to be friends with either : really hot girls,

or guys who he thinks can maybe do something for

him, Career-wise?

......................................

I don't want to accept him back and i'd actually like to tell him

to F*ck Off, literally, since i think he sucks, i think he uses people

and i think he's fake.

 

I think that you should tell him exactly what you think of him, publicly. I've known too many people like this guy, selfish users. Sounds like he needs to be taken down a peg. IMO, I would wait until he is hanging out with some "friends" and then loudly tell him exactly what you think of him. He'll probably get angry, as so many selfish people do when confronted with the truth.

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