ssc07 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 I have been dating this guy for 9 mths now and he has been living with me for 6. Neither one of us have been real happy this past month or so but I am dealing with my depression. Now he wants his space. He says he still loves me and we were meant to be together. All of his stuff is still at my house and he calls everyday sometimes 2 or 3 times. How do you go backwards in a relationship and still make your relationship stronger? Am I in denial or if he really didn't want to be with me wouldn't he take his stuff and not call? I keep thinking its me or worse someone else. I am driving myself crazy over this!!
CrushedOrgans Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 dealing with someone else's depression is NOT an easy thing. it's a good thing he is still calling you and everything, because it means he isn't shutting you out or abandoning you. but he probably did need a break from the constant ups and downs (or just downs) that you have while you were living together. give him the space he needs, he is trying to work things out too. and in the meantime, keep working on yourself and getting better; it's better if you do it yourself anyway. and maybe one day, when things are a little better ironed out, maybe you can work things out together and live in the same place again.
Walk Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 How severe is the depression? Just curious. Living with someone who has depression is hard. Really hard. Even if it's not all that severe, it's still tough for the other person to take on a daily 24 hour dose. I know it's not easy for the person with depression either... but maybe he couldn't hack the every single day all day energy sap? Maybe he needed a little space to ensure that he didn't get drug down into that abyss too? Maybe he felt he'd be stronger if he had a little distance and wanted to be stronger just so he could help you? Maybe he realized he wasn't helping you just by being there, but that he could be more help in other ways? And his space was only so that he could stay mentally balanced "For" you. Just a thought. If he's still calling, and still there for you when you need him.. then even if he's not in the house, it doesn't mean he isn't "there".
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