dmoreira Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Helo eberybody, my first post here. I would like to know opinions and views about how much times sex intercourse in a week is healthy for a couple with only 3 months of relationship? Thanks in advance. Yours opinions will help me a lot!
Guest Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 First off, why do you ask? Are you getting too much or not enough? In the first six months you should be doing it like rabbits! Several times a day, everytime you are together! I once dated a man who would not have sex with me. I don't know why I hung around for four months! Turned out he was gay! (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)
Sally00 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 I'm a proud virgin of 20 years old. I have been with my boyfriend whom I love with all my heart for 6 months. We haven't done it. And it won't happen till we're married. I'm not so easy to give myself up like that.
Walk Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 I'm not so easy to give myself up like that. Ahhhhh.... but you're sorely tempted. (I'm just ribbing you a little. Its admirable you are sticking to it. ) To the OP: Tell all!!! Why do you ask? Inquiring minds want to know! 3 months into a relationship... We'd actually just started having sex at that point... So none for 3 months, then bam! every single chance we got. From 3 times a week to 3x every day of the week. Depended on how much we saw each other, and how stressed/exhausted we were.
john1776 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I've been with my girlfriend for over 3.5 years and we have never had sexual intercourse. This is not to say that there has not been sexual activity or sexual contact. We engaged in sexual activity on the first date (which I regret today as I write this) i.e. deep french kissing, seeing each other naked, hand jobs, etc. That has been consistent throughout the relationship. I don't know when I'll ever sleep with her. It's been my own choice to not have intercourse with her. I am refusing. It's her who has been wanting to go as far as vaginal intercourse since day one but I thank God He has given me the strength not to go all the way with her. I have my reasons of course for not going that far. Primarily a fear of getting her pregnant. I did get my last ex girlfriend pregnant and luckily it turned out to be a miscarriage. At least that's what she told me. It might not have been true or it might have because she didn't tell me until 3 months after we broke up about her pregnancy and miscarriage. She kept it a secret from me all that time. Ever since then I have been afraid to have vaginal intercourse with any woman. The risk of getting her pregnant is not worth it even if I am using a condom. The shocking truth is that condoms and any form of protection has a high percentage failure rate. So any woman out there who is seeking advice about their boyfriends not wanting to have sex it does not necessarily mean that he's not into you. It does not necessarily mean that he's gay. It does not necessarily mean that he has a medical problem. It could mean that he's thinking about the consequences of going that far. He may be afraid of getting you pregnant and he certainly is correct in being fearful about that and being cautious. A real man will think about the future consequences instead of only thinking about getting immediate gratification. If my girlfriend came on these boards and sought advice about why her boyfriend (me) has not taken that step then the majority of responses would be "he's just not into you" or "he's gay" or "he's got a medical problem". None of which is true. Alot of posters are quick to assume the worst case scenario on these things. Why not consider the possibility that he is very much into you and loves you with all his heart but that he has his concerns and fears about how the relationship will change after intercourse? Because in my situation it's not a possibility it is a fact. Sure I might be satisifed with a mediocre sex life but I have a strong emotional connection with her. To me that is more important than the sex. If we can have both then so much for the better but I am satisfied with how things stand right now. So the strong emotional connection is the reason I love her with my heart and soul. And it is quite possible to be happy and satisifed with sexual activites that do not involve intercourse. I am satisifed with it. It's safe sex because we're both using our hands and we make sure to wash our hands afterwards so that there's no chance of my fluids passing into her through my hands. It's safe and pleasurable at the same time. But I've gone nearly 4 years without sexual intercourse and I can happily go another 4 years without it. Why not? Why should I re-start things now? I have no reason to when I'm getting my satisfaction from other sexual activites.
allina Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 I'm a proud virgin of 20 years old. Weird, I could have sworn you said you were 16.
john2776 Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Your 37 - same age as me. At the 3 month mark my GF and I were doing it about 4-5 times a week. Now we are at the 12 month mark its about 6-12 times a week. Seems pretty healthy and normal to me.
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