Ruff Ryder Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Whats up all? Well Im at work board out of my head so i decided to mail all my friends and people who are more than that a little something on happiness. (from my point of view) I have been for some time wrighting a book on people per say, what they do, how they thing and all that type of thing. Along the way and reading many other people's book's I have noticed a pattern on what people call happiness, (im going to use me as an example as it would not be fair to use anyone else). I was happy into my sports, going to every party living it up at every chance I got. I was the person you either hated or loved. The life of the party and always in the middle of it all. I met new people every day and loved it all. My sport was what I did best. I played cricket for loads of clubs and captained my school. I was big into it. I was happiest on the field. Sport made me and my boet Ken close he was a wicked fast bowler and me the fearless batsmen. Some people belive that happiness is found in someone else, I know a girl she is young, fun and talanted stuyding her 2nd degree at wits really has everything going for her but she is not happy because she is trying to find it in someone else and thats not possible. I met someone that was great she was funny smart really wicked young lady she took my heart and soul, I gave up the sport just to be with her (she didnt ask that I just did it) All was great I was happy in someone else. This was a massive mistake, I stoped the parties and didnt see my friends I became the shadow of the person that I was. Somethings happend in the realationship the shifted focus bad things very bad things this was all after about 6 months but anyways it made me seek approvel from this person. I stoped living my life and started to build one around her. WHAT A MISTAKE none of this was really her fault it was mine. She may have been wrong but I reacted all wrong. I gave up my happiness to make someone else happy did everything for her from driving around to cooking you name it. This made me misrable but I dont know what it was that kept me there, maybe I was used to the abuse (she wasnt doing it intentionally) but it was happening. Maybe it was the thought that it would be the same again but it never did. Anyway so I went from happy to missrable. We then split up leaving a void like never before. I went through all the steps from sad to mad to plain out MAD. Months went by and still nothing I fought for her did just about everything I could do from flowers to begging even fights at 1am in the morning. Nothing was working or helping so I did all I could do walked away and so did she. We had some great things 3 little puppies that I love and do miss dearly (she won the custdy case:) hahaha This tore me up big style, but after some time and good friends I got back into my sport, gym my life became better. As most of you know Im back the party's are mine again. The friends i have a good ones. Im surronded by awsome people and gergous woman all the time. I work hard have a good job and I'm living my life for me again The cricket is fantastic club level and an S.A A side offer to be considered, (work may not permitt) but Ill look into it. What Im saying here is yes people do things to be happy act is ways to make them happy. THink about this for a second if you cant find happiness by yourself then what are the odds of finding it in someone else? Why even try it. If you build your world arround someone it will fall down leaving just you to pick up the pices. Did I love tis girl YES I did. Did I hurt her yes Im sure I did, but at the end of the day none of that matters all that matters is we lernt a lesson and I will never make the same mistakes again. I love my sport and friends and thats all that matters. My family and I are getting close again and life is good. Oh and by the way yes I drive a nice fast car but that doesnt make me happy I used to have a old MINI 83 modle that was the car loved it but it saw the garage more than the road. hahahahah So be happy not for anyone and regadless of if your with someone or not just be you and be happy being that person. Have a good life as you only have one.
Brittjean06 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 aww good for you! we all have those relationships at one point in time that we DROP everything for. I did that for two years and even though it can still hurt its been a year and I actually am happier and me and my family are getting closer. Sometimes you don't realise what you will always have , until you get rid of the bad
KittenMoon Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Happiness with a partner is about striking a balance. You can't possibly have a close LTR w/o folding that person into your life. You'e going to sacrifice some things for them- and they should be doing the same for you. But you should be able to retain individual lives as well. Like what everyone here says: one person cannot fulfill all your needs.
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