Just broken up now

[Guest]

I have just finished it with my boyfriend. It all feels wrong to break up, i want to work things out but i dont feel like we can work things out. He has said so many nice things to me, he genuinally loves me alot and doesnt want to split up. There are other things we want in our lifes though. Neither of us WANT to break up, but to me it seems like the right thing to do, so we can maybe both be happier in life?? I also cheated on my boyfriend so if we were meant to be i wouldnt have done that would i

 

any advice please? x

[Returning]

Hey Guest,

 

May I ask your age? it seems a bit daft to respond to your question if I pitch my answer to the wrong age group.

 

Thanks

[superconductor]

Let me get this straight:

• You and he love each other;
  
• You don't want to break up with him;
  
• You think that by leaving him, you'll both be happier;
  
• You suffer from the common delusion that somehow you and someone else are "meant to be";
  
• You cheated on him.

Do I have this right?

 

If so, he's lucky that you're out of his life.

 

He deserves someone rational who won't cheat on him.

 

As for what you deserve, well, that's another thread entirely.