Diver012 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Im wondering when ill be ready to forgive my Ex. This morning I was thinking about past relationships that I have been in, and some of the hurt I went through. There was a point in which I forgave them, and really didnt realize it. I think back to these people now, and they mean nothing to me. Theres no bitter feelings, no anger or feelings of betrayal. No feeling at all. Yet I didnt wake up one day and decide that hey, its ok now, I forgive them. They simply slipped out of my memory and my life. Now I sit here, 3 months later, and I obviously think about what happened still. I am healing. I can feel it. It still bothers me and will for a while. Sucks that I have to work with this woman, but thats a decision we both made and we both have to live with it now, although I imagine its easier for her since she wasnt in love with me anymore when we broke up. At some point in my life I know I will forgive & forget her. I hope its sooner than later but I know it will take time. This has been one of the deepest pains I have ever felt, yet I know I am getting through it rather well. I wish everyone here the best. Life is just way to short to walk around in pain all the time. I pray that you can forgive those people in your life that has wronged you, so that you may go on being happy.
fireflywy Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 I finally did, as my letter a few posts back showed. Everyone's situation is different but for me, when I made the active thought to consciously wish her the best, I was forgiving her as well. I doesn't mean that I still don't think about her, but for me, it has made a world of difference. I feel free and I don't feel it set me back at all. I went from day one of the break up, which was in my head these past couple of months, to the first steps of moving on into a different world. Of course, everyone is different and each case is different. I can only speak for myself. I understand how you feel though. It's can be difficult to do.
Brittjean06 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Well if all these other ex's are out of your mind now than maybe with some time this one will be to. It is very difficult I'm still trying my self:) but trying harder this time
In Sync Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 You will be able to forgive your ex. I see forgiveness as the greatest gift to bestow upon yourself. It's really a decison you make to release yourself from the bondage of out of control anger and resentment. There's a reason we have negative emotions and why we feel hurt and pain, to learn... but staying in that mode longer than necessary without making any effort to forgive is sort of choosing to stay in a bottomless pit. I mean really how long can you stay full of anger jealousy resentment or holding a grudge towards anyone without it hurting you in the long run. It's a gift to yourself to simply forgive and release it all. Let nature take care of karma but I don't want to take it upon myself to hold that much negativity towards anyone. I think when I was unable to forgive I felt fear of not seeing a delightful and full future for myself. I gave that angrychild inside of me total control. Enough!Today I feel lighter, my face is bright, my skin is clear, my eyes are sparkling..I'm grateful for all the good things in my life. I smile more too. Just observe around you faces of anger and people who do hold onto hurt and old wounds, you can always see it. I say forgive release and relish in your own lightness of being.
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