soft heart Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 What can I do please? We have been together for more than 2 years but we had a break for quite some time. We have had a few figths before due to my insecurties and since then he has changed. He says he isn't sure anymore about us and he isn't sure if I am the one for him. He says he knows he has to make a decision about us. We are in a LDR for the past year so things have not been very easy between us. He says he does not like that I cry all the time whenever he does not tell me he loves me and that he is fed up with our situation. I want to be with him as I love him. I don't want to loose him, however, I feel like I have been loosing him. He says the more push and put pressure on him the more he feels like he does not want this. He is coming to visit me this weekend and he said that we can talk about our situation but I am so scared if he wants to break it off with me? He said he does not know anymore as we always fight and I am never happy. What should I do? I think I will be heartbroken if he leaves? I don't want to break up with him because 2 months ago I told him it's over as an overreaction and since then he has been having these doubts. He is coming to see me this Friday. I am actually really scared about the meeting. I feel like he has changed a lot though. And I am feeling pretty insecure about it all. When I start to question him, he says he does not like it.
littlekitty Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Is there a possibility of your LD situation changing? If so, when? You need to decide if you can cope with the LDR. Being insecure and being in a LDR don't tend to go hand in hand! If you are always upset and feeling doubts when you speak to him, then he more than likely is feeling miserable in this situation. Imagine what's it's like when you're looking forward to speaking to your girlfriend, and what you get is a crying, insecure, whining women.....?!! Not a great experience I should think huh? I'm not trying to be harsh here, I've been insecure myself in the past. But you have to try to imagine what it's like for him on the other side of it. That will help you understand why he is pulling away from you and what is causing it. Knowing your partner is miserable, and unhappy can't be nice for him. And it won't make for a good relationship. You need to be strong and secure in order for this to work well I believe. What makes you so insecure? Is it your past, or his behaviour? I think the best thing you can do is have a long chat with him. You're going to need to reassure him that you can be happy, secure and strong in the LDR. But if won't work if you can't actually do that. Hopefully it's not too late for you to do that.
ImmaBeAlright Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 What can I do please? We have been together for more than 2 years but we had a break for quite some time. We have had a few figths before due to my insecurties and since then he has changed. He says he isn't sure anymore about us and he isn't sure if I am the one for him. He says he knows he has to make a decision about us. We are in a LDR for the past year so things have not been very easy between us. He says he does not like that I cry all the time whenever he does not tell me he loves me and that he is fed up with our situation. I want to be with him as I love him. I don't want to loose him, however, I feel like I have been loosing him. He says the more push and put pressure on him the more he feels like he does not want this. He is coming to visit me this weekend and he said that we can talk about our situation but I am so scared if he wants to break it off with me? He said he does not know anymore as we always fight and I am never happy. What should I do? I think I will be heartbroken if he leaves? I don't want to break up with him because 2 months ago I told him it's over as an overreaction and since then he has been having these doubts. He is coming to see me this Friday. I am actually really scared about the meeting. I feel like he has changed a lot though. And I am feeling pretty insecure about it all. When I start to question him, he says he does not like it. What can you do, nothing. Nothing is the best you can do now concerning him and his uncertainity. But, there's a lot you can do about you. Why are you insecure? Look into that. I don't think it has much to do with it being an LDR but more to do with you. try to work on that so that you don't carry it into another relationship.
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