Abercrombie Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 "[FONT=verdana][sIZE=2] hey! i just wanted to write u and say hey and see how u are doin! sorry i havent been able to call ya. just this week has been CRAZY! g-ma died this past tuesday so i was with my cousins like all dang week. then between all of that and work ive had NO time. but ya id like to see ya and talk to u if thats ok and all. u know i dont want things to be weird with us or anything. just, i dont want to be with anyone and if ud like to be friends with me then im so ok with that as long as u r 2. i dont want to just distance myself or anything....b/c it shouldnt be like that. ur a great guy josh...u really are... haha ya i thought ur mom was going to yell at me or somethin lol which i know she wouldnt just i dunno....i didnt know if she hated me or something. have u got a job yet or anything? oh and how did all the things go with court? or is that later on? dang....i dunno lol im sooo confused right now...i dont even know if i can remember how to take a ****! HHAHAHAHA oh wait....girls dont **** hehe but ya....thanx for the e-mails....and i wont be a stranger 2 u...and U DONT BE A STRANGER TO ME EITHER!!!! maybe we can talk this week sometime when i dont have to work and just chill if u wanna....alrighty well im gonna go to bed...so ill talk to ya later!" How should I take this letter? I mean do you think I have any chance at getting back with her, or atleast getting close again? [/sIZE][/FONT]
johnnytable Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 How old is this person? Sounds like she wants to be your friend, which should not be confused with her wanting to actually be with you.
Author Abercrombie Posted August 3, 2006 Author Posted August 3, 2006 She is 20, almost 21. To me, it sounds like she wants to keep me close and also do what is best for her right now, which is work and school. She came out of a 3 year relationship a few months before we got together. She said she wasn't ready for a real relationship right now.
johnnytable Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Since you are broken up, what she wants is pretty much irrelevant. What is it that you want? Do you want her around or not? If so, what are your reasons for it?
Author Abercrombie Posted August 4, 2006 Author Posted August 4, 2006 Since you are broken up, what she wants is pretty much irrelevant. What is it that you want? Do you want her around or not? If so, what are your reasons for it? Yes I would very much like her around. I want her to see that I'm not realy an *******. I just have alot going on right now and the stress overwhelms me at times. I snapped and some one sentence I should'nt have, and shes out just like that. I want her to know that I am a good person. I also want to have a chance with her in the future, if she will let me. Theres no chance she will let me unless she knows the real me, and how I feel. And thats what I want her to see.
AriaIncognito Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 She wants friendship only. Seems pretty clear in that email. If you can handle that, then be her friend, however don't be foolish and wait for her to come around, or try to win her over...it doesn't appear to work that way for most... Jennifer
Author Abercrombie Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 Well today she called and we talked for about an hour on the phone. She talked about her day and how it sucked at work. Then she started talking about us a little bit so we did that for about another 15 minutes. Then she had to get into the shower before her mom. She was gonna call me back but she was exhausted and prolly fell asleep. I have friends that are girls. And she does not act like them. I am not clear as to what she wants. I do not talk to any of my friends on the phone for over 10 minutes much less an hour. She also kept hinting at the fact that she had no plans to night and even asked me what I was doing. She also knows that a girl that hangs around us likes me. She asked if she tryed anything on me and if that girl still liked me. This does not sound like a "friend" to me. Games or is she confused?
johnnytable Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 I think that you are trying to analyze thing too much. It sounds like she is just clinging to you a bit and calling you to make sure that you can be there for her as a friend. She is comfortable talking to you and probably enjoys it. This does not mean that she wants to be with you!
Author Abercrombie Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 I'm not saying that. But it also does not mean that we can't have something in the future. Correct?
Quinch Posted August 5, 2006 Posted August 5, 2006 Sometimes being friends with your ex can work really well and sometimes it doesn't. The test is how you would feel if she got a new boyfriend tomorrow?
Author Abercrombie Posted August 5, 2006 Author Posted August 5, 2006 I don't just want to be friends in the future. But at the same time if she got a boyfriend I would get over it. I am being her friend because I want her to actually know who I am. For the two months we were together (yeah isn't that long, I know) I hardly acted myself. She is very conservative and picky so it will be awhile before she dates again most likely. And when she told me "I don't want a relationship right now" I said yeah, I've heard that and said that to other girls before. I also said "all feelingss aside You realy mean you don't want to have a relationship with me" and she said no.
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