Wes Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 OK, long story short: my gf and I have been dating for 1.5 years now, and a week ago today, she felt like we should take a break. She's young, confused, unsure of what she wants, etc. So we agreed to take a 2-week break from each other. At that point, I made up my mind to do NC with her for the whole two weeks. Well, just four days after the break started, she texts me asking how i'm doing. We both say we're doing fine and talk via text messages for the next hour or so, and go to bed. Two days after that (today), I get a text message from her saying that her aunt has died. I've read before that when on a break, or after a break-up, it's best to not say stuff like "I'm always here for you" or "If you ever need anything...", but I immediately put our relationship out of my head and thought about her, the person....the person I care about. I gave my condolences to her when she told me, and told her that if she needed anything, to let me know. Later in the day, I sent her another text while I was at work, asking if she was doing ok. They weren't that close, but she was understandably sad. That's the last I heard from her, and I feel like I'm in a tough spot. I want to give her her space and I want our relationship to work out, but I also want to comfort her during this time. I care about her so much and I wish I could just give her a big hug. It's much too late to call or text her tonight, so I'm considering sending her an email letting her know that I'm here for her if she needs me. I even thought about trying to lighten the mood a little and write something that will make her smile during her time of sadness. I feel so selfish for still thinking about doing the "right" or "wrong" things that may save or destroy our relationship while we're on this break. My conscience is telling me to let her be and give her her space, but my heart is telling me to let her know that I'm here for her. If I do send this message, however, I will leave her alone again until she decides to contact me again. What do you guys think I should do??
westernxer Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 You already told her you'll be there if she needs you. That should suffice.
norajane Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 You already told her you'll be there if she needs you. That should suffice. I totally agree. She knows. Now give her some space.
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