over_the_moon Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 I have been with my current BF for nine months. Things are great and we are inseperable!! However, I have a question - he still lives at home and last night, I was over at his house (we were watching tv in his room) when his dad asked him to go downstairs and help him with something. So, I'll be honest - I was snooping - and I came across a container with phone numbers in it. (males and females) Some of these numbers were of old girlfriends and past flings. Now do I have a reason to be concerned and jealous? We are talking about the future and marriage - now I'm feeling worried. Am I over re-acting??
john2776 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Yes you are overreacting! Don't worry about it at all. I bet my diary in front of me has names and numbers in it of a few ex's. It doesn't mean I call them. And even if I did, that in itself is not a problem. I still have some email contact with an ex gf in france, and an ex gf in switzerland and I can assure you there is nothing wrong with it! (Its like one email every 3 or 12 months). An ex is someone that it did not work out with. You are the girl he now wants. Be happy
norajane Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 What would he find if he snooped around your house? Old love letters? Photos of exes? Old phone numbers in a drawer you hadn't opened in years? Even if your past is completely wiped clean from your house, most other people aren't that diligent. If you had no reason to be jealous before you snooped around, you have no reason to be jealous just because you found a bunch of old phone numbers. If you are seriously considering getting married, you need to be able to give him the benefit of the doubt in situations like this, instead of immediately jumping to the worst possible conclusions with NO information whatsoever.
lovestrucksweetie Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Ya, to be honest i would be jealous or at least a little curious as to why he kept them......I also was in a very dishonest relationship before to though so it might just be that it's a habit to waste your energy trying to be mad over nothing.
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